Embracing Identity: The Journey of Self-Discovery and Transformation

our identity as we know it begins to form from the instant we take our first breath we start off as a blank slate an

open book waiting to be written our early years are filled with First Steps first sights first

[Music] discoveries each of these moments shapes us adds breath stroke to the canvas of

our character as we move through adolescence the picture becomes more complex little

by little we become a mosaic a multifaceted collage a puzzle formed from the fragments of our

[Music] life there comes a day where we grasp the paintbrush ourselves we realize that

we need not be defined solely by circum understand that we have the power to paint our own

future we awaken to find that we can reshape our identity our identity continues to evolve but now as an

intentional work of art Guided by our own hand we are the artist and the

masterpiece [Music] it is time to step into a greater

identity this is the gateway to your alternate [Music]

life hello gorgeous human beings and welcome to the identity work program I am so excited for this work

with you I cannot begin to tell you how meaningful this body of work is and how much time effort and intentional

creation has gone into this program it was such a big decision to make this an invisible offer but I know

that this is most definitely the most important work when deciding that we're going to go for something in our lives

like this is the beginning this is the Inception of us as we move forward and I've done a lot of work in this industry

with a lot of extraordinary people but what I feel I've activated so much in people along their journey is this new

identity and it was a lot easier for me to do it in my earlier days because it felt like I was starting with people

from the beginning that's what I was doing I was getting people right there at the beginning where it matters the

most and shaping with them their identity so that they could believe in themselves more so they could remember

who they are and what they're capable of right from the beginning and I walked with people from much earlier

stages as my brand got known a little more what started to happen is people got it in their mind that I was too

advanced that somehow I'd gone too far and I couldn't help them anymore and this piece of identity started to slip

away a little bit and I started speaking to people where I basically assumed they already remembered they already knew

they were capable they already knew they were on this Mission but something quite magical has been happening in my world

over the last couple of years I I'll say a year and a half is it feels like even the people who thought they knew who

they were are having another identity shift and it started to become clear that this isn't something that just

happens once and I've contemplated this work and I've realized that there are multiple identity shifts that have

helped me become where I am right now and I've re understood it's like I understood another reason

another understanding of identity work is it's not just that one day you become another person it's that all throughout

your life your identity changes and at different stages of that identity you're in an energetic match for different

parts of your life to be made manifest but we need multiple identities and they are meant to stack on top of each other

you're not actually meant to transform you're meant to add new parts to your identity to

evolve it's about Evolution more than it is about transformation which means there are multiple identity shifts that

need to occur the ones that have already happened the ones that are on the verge of happening

now and the ones that are going to happen way further in life so the way I've created this program is so that I

can really affect massive Liberation transformation Freedom change in your life and in my life during this

container this is not just going to be one where I just talk to you this is going to be one where we enter a

discussion which means I'm going to have a module with you and then the next day we're going to talk about the module so

you're going to notice in the way that it's scheduled that there's a live and then there's a Q&A and then there's a

live and then there's a Q&A and then there's a live and there's a Q&A yes I'm still in

Hawaii so we are going to have a deepening of these Concepts so that you can grasp it contemplate it think about

it ask questions about it now I don't want you to put pressure on yourself you may not be able to figure out what your

questions are right away other people in the program will have your back there will be a lot of questions I won't be

able to answer all of them but I'm going to go for the big lines I'm going to look for the patterns I can see in the

Co in the questions and every deepening call we're going to go deeper and deeper into the meaning of what we've talked

about in each call so today I've got a piece that I want to share with you and tomorrow I'm going to go deeper through

your questions the next day I'll give you another piece and then we'll go deeper and deeper into the question

questions if there's something that you need in the program at any point the best thing to do is to directly DM the

alpm team so you're going to notice that in this program there are multiple people that are on my team you'll notice

Tammy and Mahin you'll notice cam Nicole jacine you you'll notice Emmanuel Vanessa you'll notice Lisa Kimberly

Alpha Team there's so many Alpha team members Cheryl Alpha Team there's so many but the goal is not to message them

privately because it get things get lost we want to streamline anything any question anything you can't find you DM

the alpha fem team which is the core messaging team that will help you the most during during this this season now

there's going to be opportunities for you in this program to really live what I'm talking about and you've got to

grasp them if you want this to make a difference in your life this is not just a course I want you to listen to you

listening to me is a fraction of what we can do here I want to walk with you over the next 11 days so that your life is

not even recognizable because of this work it is crazy how fast it can happen but you

have got to open your mind and test stuff so it can't just be like Melanie an ler says so must be true so let me

see if I can get behind that it's got to be like let me try this out let me see how

I feel about that let me go do something in my life let let me discover you've got to go on an adventure on a journey

let this be more about your life than the program let me just be a person that's here whispering in your ear but

let this be more about your life over the next 11 days than than what I'm saying let just the parts that I'm

talking about ignite your life if you do this things are going to start to change really fast my life changed so fast when

I look at it in hindsight the the period of massive transformation was actually quite

short but I was completely involved in my own Liberation Freedom transformation during that time it wasn't about

learning that's not what I was doing I was changing on purpose and so I don't want you to take this program the way

you've taken most programs in your life where you're just learning this is actually not even about

you learning because it's too much about you this is actually you already know you just need to

remember so I really believe that when we come into this world there's a reason that we get applauded more at the

beginning than than ever before and it's because when we're sh being shaped in our

beginning we we're wanting to be constantly reminded that we're actually fantastic and we need that because we're

literally a blob of goo when we first come into this world we can't feed ourselves we can't do

anything so we need the external validation of people like you're walking you're talking you're amazing because if

not we would just completely forget that we're great and we'd just think well I know nothing we look at the world of

around us of fully formed human beings and we' think there's something wrong with me I can't do any of these things

but because we get applauded every step of the way we actually feel like we're growing this feeling of I'm growing

going I'm becoming I I'm am special I'm important I matter I'm all those feelings they're required for our

Evolution and for our growth it's just that eventually I think the goal in human evolution is that we were supposed

to figure out that that's how we were supposed to treat ourselves we weren't supposed to

constantly wait for someone else to tell us we were great the goal was that by getting that that circumstantial awe

that other people give to a young child oh my gosh oh my gosh you're so Advanced that

circumstantial external support was meant to help us model what a healthy amount of remembering how great we are

looks like but we don't know that so we just become accustomed to the external validation and one day it stops and

instead of remembering how to treat ourselves we just start looking for other people to validate us and we

forget forget forget how incredible we are and how much we matter I've thought about what it really takes for a person

to come into this planet like I've really con contemplated my life my journey my past and my becoming and it

blows my mind what it took for me to be alive and so the first thing I want to do is I want to give you a little bit of

a story of how I came to be in this world because if you see how much I realize this matters to me you might be

able to realize that it's important important and it's going to make you curious about your becoming now I want

to start by saying that you may not even be able to retrieve your story there may be big blanks in yours you don't know

who your parents are you don't know who your grandparents are there's a big mystery somewhere that is also out of

this world incredible like how the heck are you here when we can't even Trace how you got here like can it be more of

a miracle but here's where I really started to realize something out of this world this is way more than

just being born it's even bigger than that kind of Miracle when I look at all the paths that come together if I look

at the the the side from my mother for example her parents were in England my mom comes from England and

so there were there were patterns in her family and her dad's blood line the men died at age 35 for three generations

something happened and the men died at age 35 for generations and her dad died when she was

35 when when he was 35 he died of a brain tumor when he was 35 the story of my grandmother coming into this world

when she was born they thought she was not alive and so they just wrapped her in newspaper and put her under the table

while they tried to save her mother they didn't even think she was alive then they heard her crying later

on realized she was alive but she spent the first moments of her life wrapped in newspaper under a

table her mom died 6 weeks later of pneumonia and she was raised by her grandmother when her grandmother passed

her aunt and uncle took care of her and she grew up loved and cherished but never really knowing her parents and

never really talking about it either and it was so wild because she was engaged to be married but she kept seeing my

granddad who actually grew up on a farm wasn't a farmer but grew up on a farm and was a

builder and they saw each other often although she was engaged and she quite fancied him he was quite lovely looking

but she was engaged to be married and one day she went to see a psychic and the psychic told her the

most iconic thing she said you very soon we meet a tall dark stranger and your life will change

forever and she walked out of the psychic's home or place of business and bumped right

into her Crush that lived on the other side of town walking on the bridge towards

her and he asked her if he could take her out on a date and she told him she was engaged and he said well I'd like to

take you out on a date anyway and so she went to her fiance and said we've encountered a problem I've I've met

someone and I think I want to find out what's there and he said go go on the date you'll be back you'll realize I'm

the one and that was a big mistake because she went and she fell head over heels in love with him they got married

and he treated her like gold he was he did everything he could for her and they built magical things together he was an

entrepreneur and he had Big Dreams and he built the most beautiful he by the time he was 35 he owned 24 houses he

wanted to remodel and rebuild and they had their children and and then at 35 when my my Uncle Paul so the last of

three was born he got a terminal brain tumor and died and my mom was terrified for the longest time of leaving my my

grandmother's side terrified of going to school had anxiety could not even make it into the school she she'd get on the

school bus and get to school and walk back home so afraid her mom would never come

back but some things strange happened one of the teachers at school started to care for her and really

helped her get back on her feet and within a couple of years she actually found a really strong personality and

got back to finding herself and being who she was and by the time she was 18 she decided to go across the world to

Nanny in Canada and this is after she'd aced her school and gotten a great job for the government but her next

promotion could only be in a few years so she thought I'm going to travel from being a young girl who was too afraid to

leave her house too afraid to leave her mom in case something bad happened her identity shifted and she became willing

to travel to Canada to be a nanny to go explore the world and so she did that and in the meantime this other

incredible thing happened so in another dimension in another world my dad's family was quite

interesting my grandmother had eight siblings or something it was a huge family and she she from the age of 14

started to feel not very well and in and out of doctor's offices where they said she just needed to exercise and take

care of herself and she fell in love with my granddad when she was only a girl and they were married by the time

she was 19 and she got pregnant very fast and one day she was walking up the stairs

out of breath and my great-grandmother at the time so her husband's mother said there's

something wrong with you she was a nurse and she said you need to go to the doctors right now I know this stuff I'm

a nurse there's something wrong when she got to the doctors they said it's a miracle you're

alive your heart the vales to your heart are closed you don't even have one minute to live like we need to operate

you now you are on borrowed time and she said well you can't operate me I'm pregnant what will happen to the

baby they said the baby will not survive it's impossible that the baby survives you have 25% chances of Sur survival if

we operate you and if we don't you should be dead already she had an open heart

surgery she survived and so did my dad he was a miracle baby there were five or six

doctors in the delivery room applauding the miracle of his birth when he was born he should not have lived at

all at the same time as this my granddad was born from a young family of Italian descent in a small Hospital

in Montreal Canada and his parents were too young and couldn't keep him and the nurse who brought him into this world

fell head over heels in love with him at age 45 she adopted him she'd never had kids

and she brought him home and so he was brought up by the most loving incredible nurse who in turn

saved his wife's life and his firstborn son's life this is how these two people came to be

in this world and then my mom's in Canada 21 years

old and bumps into my dad in a nightclub she doesn't speak a lick of French he doesn't speak a lick of

English and they look at each other for months until one night she loses an earring and he helps her find it on the

dance floor and tells her she has beautiful eyes a couple of months later he sat in front

of her and held her hand and pretended to put a ring on his on her finger before he could even speak to her

he pretended to put a ring on her finger and they've now been married for almost 40

years I was born into this world my parents had nothing they had no money they lived on nothing but they they made

it they made it through their lives they made it to each other they learned each other's language

and then I was born and my dad just wanted to do for us what he'd never had and he worked so hard to give me and the

life that he never had I came into this world and it was an emergency birth because my umbilical cord was wrapped

around my neck and I was losing life before I came into this world my mom then had two miscarriages after me how I

made it I don't know then my brother came years later and then my sister came and my parents

had an amazing life until things got really hard and my entire identity got reshaped to then being an older sister

and helping my parents through some really difficult times but then in the way that they handled things in my

adolescence I became really bitter and resentful of them and I was actually a very difficult teenager and I completely

alienated my family and broke off for my entire family I alienated everybody and I completely broke my life apart piece

by piece by piece until there was nothing left and then I rebuilt

it there are so many different versions of my parents and they are

parents there are so many different versions of me this life is so much bigger than our

little 2024 version of Who We Are what it took for me to get here what it took for you to get here is a

freaking Miracle some people didn't make it some people almost made it some people had to

go around the world to find each other both my grandparents survived the war they they some of them overcame illness

some of them Bridge death some of them died young it it doesn't make sense that we're here and if you take the time

today to not just think about your becoming but actually what it took for you to be

here you might realize maybe we owe it to ourselves to do something with this

miracle maybe if it took so much for us to be here in the first place it deserves a little more

care this life of ours and I remember the first time I ever contemplated this the first time I ever thought to myself

gosh I'm not honoring this life enough it came with some guilt and it came with some shame that I'd made it to age 25

without even thinking about it but I actually have come to realize that there is a reason and there is a

moment that we are supposed to break through and it's not just as easy as from the moment you're born you're

supposed to know because there are things that have to happen that make us parts of who we are

it's our unique tapestry it's the unique brush Strokes the unique moments that make you realize that make you love your

life genuinely not because someone told you to love it but because something happened and you realize how much this

matters I contemplated how the heck I got to the point where after all the beauty that my

life had given me I wrecked it all how the heck did I make it all fall apart and I realized one of the main things I

believed and one of the main things I believed is that I didn't matter to anybody after I'd really helped my

parents so much to their bankruptcy I don't know what I imagined but I I really thought that that would be

something that would Bond us in a powerful beautiful way but I can only I don't know if you can imagine having one

of your hardest times in your life and it's one of your children that has to step in that actually probably comes

with a lot of pain and so instead of representing this like hero thing I hoped I would I actually represented one

of the hardest times in their lives and their experience with me during that was very difficult but most

children think their parents should know better and most children think their parents should only see beauty and

should only be grateful and should only be proud of them I never considered their experience I was too young to even

think about their experience all I thought was I'd done so much for them and they should have dot dot dot

whatever that is but in the moment where they behaved in a way different than what I would have hoped the only

explanation I had was that I just didn't matter that I helped them and now they were doing better and I just didn't

matter anymore I couldn't imagine it was anything other than that and that started to shape a new season in my life

I don't matter I started looking at everything through that filter anytime they'd go to a baseball game from from

my or um basketball game from my sister I'd think of all the the recitals they never came to for me every time they

they were proud of my brother for doing something I thought of all the things they didn't come to for me every

time everything was put through this filter no matter no matter what they did even when it was beautiful reminded me

of what I lacked everything went through the filter of I don't matter I don't matter everything everything everything

everything if I said something and they forgot if I didn't do something good enough and I got in trouble if and then

it started happening outside of my home I noticed it at school if a friend stopped interacting me with the same the

same way I felt I didn't matter if a teacher didn't pick me when my hand was raised I didn't matter if if I didn't

get chosen for the project or the thing I didn't matter I didn't matter it started to show up everywhere if I

didn't get the promotion I didn't matter if I didn't get the job I didn't matter if something if someone else was chosen

first I didn't matter if I fell in love with someone they didn't love me back I didn't matter and then it started to

expedite because I looked for it everywhere not knowing not knowingly knowing what I was doing

but it was just more evidence to support this identity that I'm just a person that doesn't

matter it doesn't matter and so the boyfriends I had cheated on me and the friends I had found bitter friends and

it just got worse and worse and worse until I couldn't sell anymore until I couldn't do anything anymore until I

broke up in my partner until I go bankrupt in the front seat of my car and there came a point where I just thought

matter at all I even remember getting to a point where I was now sleeping in the front

seat of my car in the snowstorm nobody knew I was sleeping there I hadn't told a soul and I thought

and the snowplow cars were coming and removing the snow and I thought if if I got hit by one of these

snow plows and never went home no one would care no one even knows I'm here

how long would it even take before someone realized I was gone I don't matter I I believed this so much it was

who I was and I acted in vibrational alignment with that belief every

day until I literally saw no reason at all to be here that is who I was in that moment it

didn't even matter what people in my family had to go through for me to even exist I was committed to the identity

where I didn't matter at all the Breakthrough the first big breakthrough

I got was this moment where I had to ask myself what on Earth when I first started in personal development work and

it was a mistake that I really got invested in personal development work because I Googled how do you make your

ex-boyfriend cry and I found how to have the relationship you want but the words I

typed in the search engine were not help me they were hurt him God changed the Google search

somehow because I got a different answer and that changed my life because I realized I I felt ashamed of myself to

be honest I was sitting in my car and I felt ashamed of what I typed when I got the response and the result from Google

I was like oh like why didn't I type that and I started going through a

journey like like why did I type that why did I typee how to make your ex-boyfriend cry and you know what I

realized I think the only way I really thought I could matter was if I somehow punished

him like I couldn't matter by loving him so what if I could matter by punishing him I thought that's the extent of what

I believe about me and so what I had to start believing with was that one day

everything that was happening to me at that point would matter it wasn't a belief like I matter now I couldn't

access that but what I started to believe was what if there comes a

day where me having gone through all of this help somebody else that was the gateway to a new identity for

me and then I started looking for something different what if me changing this has an impact

on me and on other people what if I can change the way I feel what if it just started unblocking tiny little bits at a

time tiny tiny tiny tiny tiny and I started really diving into personal development heavily at this point I had

absolutely no intention of this becoming a business for me I just hoped it would make me feel different than what I was

feeling I just I did the work for me but it was not long until I had a friend to call me and I ended up coaching her

unknowingly coaching her on the phone and she talked about me to other people and someone wanted to hire me and

I was like I don't do this for money I just I was just helping you you know you can tell her to read this book and this

book and my friend was like I read those books that's not what you did you did that you did not do that you did

something else you have a gift it took a lot of courage to take the first couple the clients that I took

but it gave me something extraordinary it gave me a feeling of this work

matters this is something I had not felt in a very long time but why I'm what I'm so grateful

for is that I did not start doing this work for people I had started doing it for me which means deep down in the

bottom of my soul where I couldn't even tell I had already started to decide that I mattered or else I wouldn't have

been doing the work in the first place if I could not at all decide that I mattered then I probably

never would have done the work for me because I wouldn't have cared about myself enough to do it so if you've been

in a tough place or you relate to a lot of the I don't matter stories I just want you to acknowledge the fact that

you're in this room there is something deeper than your conscious mind that knows you matter or else you would not

be in the process of changing things you would have given up on yourself entirely and you would not care to do anything

for you if the only truth was that you didn't care about you there's got to be something more or else you don't show up

here that's the thing and so the First Transformation that I was not even aware of is that I

cared enough about myself to learn how to change and it didn't even feel like that at the

time I didn't even recognize that at the time so little by little I started to believe I mattered and then all of a

sudden other people mattered and some magical frequency started to create itself in my life a frequency that I had

never experienced this balanced which was the US frequency I realized in the past

whenever I had given something before it was I do it for you so hopefully you love me I do it for you so that you

respect me I do it for you so that you honor me I do it for you so that I feel something instead of I do it for me and

it changes me so much that I realize I can also do it for you because we've got this because we

matter US the US frequency this is the beginning of the work that turned me from being I don't

matter to we matter and we matter is the greatest frequency I've ever touched in my entire life I really profoundly

believe the reason I have manag to make it through that I've been given this opportunity to help this many people

that I'm able to to really live by my work and what I love and by this incredible mission that fuels my life is

because of this we matter frequency I don't matter just because I make you matter and I don't matter if

you don't matter it's we matter everyone me you us and it's become part of my identity to live that

way when I think about who I am I'm the person that believes we matter that means I'm always a part of

it and I'm never alone and that could not be further from who I was back then but the crazy thing is that I could

not be who I am now without losing myself entirely I see that so clearly because I

needed to see what it was like to live only for other people I needed to see what it was like to not

even to realize that I didn't even care about myself and then I had to rework the order for me for you for us I matter

if I don't matter there is no us if I don't matter there is no relationship and I have built this

entire Mission and all of its fulfillment and success success off the concept and principle that we matter for

me for you for us this is what has guided this Mission so part of the identity work and

what really matters in what we're going to do here today is that when we dissolve the thought that we're supposed

to be different or special to matter that we have to be successful to matter that we have to be anything but alive to

matter when we dissolve that the entire world becomes available there is nothing you need to

do first this is the first the first move in all identity work is the moment you realize we all

matter if you're trying to matter more you're trying to be more important more seen more important more beautiful more

validated more intelligent more successful more Rich your identity is wobbly

it's based on proof and evidence and something going right instead of it being unshakable undeniable and based on

something real we are really important in the making of this world and it wouldn't

have taken everything it took for us to get here if that weren't true so I am actually going to ask you

today to do some research have a conversation with family members try to piece together Your

Existence a little bit not just what nationality and what background but like what it

took what tragedy what celebration what Miracle what pain what suffering what breakthroughs what magic what crazy wild

things had to happen for your existence to be and then you just realize that's

enough that's enough for this to be like how the heck did you make it here why you and are you

going to waste the rest of your life waiting to feel something before you decide it

matters or how about now how about right freaking now because the biggest lie is that

there's something we need to prove before we can claim our deserving our mattering our

ability the minute we crossed that threshold into life we claimed our place the rest was just supposed to be

remembering so what I want for you in this in this course is that you quiet the

noise of what Society tells all of us we need to prove in order for other other people to agree and that instead we

become the ones that say I matter and you matter there's nothing you need to do not for me not for anybody else like

we dismantle that part we're already 300 steps ahead because everyone's trying to figure out what their thing is well if I

matter then what's my purpose if I matter what's my no you matter first then you figure out your purpose what's

the point of you figuring out your purpose before you know you matter what are you going to do you're going to say

well I think this is my purpose but who am I so there's no point in you discovering

your purpose before you decide you matter the first step is you've just got to realize how entirely ridiculous it is

if that's ever been a question in the first place and what we look at is the

most easy thing to see in life is that it is a human response for the first few years

in a child's life to just look at them and Marvel at everything they do this is the experience we have of

coming into the planet you're applauded for every single thing that you do that you remember that you're a miracle then

you were supposed to remember it yourself we just got lost in liking other people to tell us we get to stop

that but the thing is it's okay that that was a part of your identity that seeking validation and needing other

people to tell you you were a miracle was part of who you were it's going to to serve you and then it's going to

serve them and then it's going to serve us and then it's all okay but you don't need that now not

after this discussion like you could literally be dropped this is the crazy thing you

could be dropped in a city that you don't know anybody in the middle of nowhere and you could rebuild an entire

life with nobody knowing who you are you could just decide who you are from scratch and build an extraordinary life

from nothing the biggest fear the biggest

breakdown is the thought that maybe who we are now is overriding what could be for us like so

many people need to know for sure that you're great before you're allowed to be so many people need to agree you you too

many people know you as a failure too many people know you as simple too many people know you was the decisions that

you've made it's too hard to change what does other people have anything to do with us

changing only if we need their validation only if we need their opinion but we

don't they matter we matter whether I drop you in the middle of a new city and to give you a new identity or whether I

give you this conversation today in the middle of your own life the possibility of you being exactly who you want to be

is the same if you understand that it's all about you the way you interact the way you

walk the way you talk the way you move when you know you matter it's different the way you smile the way you cry the

way you scream the way you live when you know you matter is different the way you try the way you go

for it the way you fail the way you get back up the way you do everything is different when you matter when you don't

matter it's so easy to give up who cares when you matter you don't give up you can't give up it matters too much

and not just that your mattering remembers reminds other people that they matter and so it's for all of us you got

to get back up one more time not just for you you've got to get back up one more time for me for you for us for all

of us because you matter in in everything because you're us we are showing the world what is

possible and what is not possible every new child comes into this world looking at the grown-ups to see what their life

is going to look like and they are basing what they believe about the world on

us they are creating their identities based on what they think is predictable based on what we

create I think the world is ready for a few new Miracles because the stories we're still

talking about are very old stories we're talking about Walt Disney and we're talking about Marilyn Monroe

and we're talking about Sylvester Stallone and we're talking about really old stories

what does our generation bring to the table where are the Miracles of our time they're in all of us that are

waiting for God knows what to tell us that we're important enough to be that change what are the

odds 100% if we matter the odds are 100% because we're already

here that's a miracle enough so what else and the crazy thing is most of the people who changed their lives and did

something great sucked before they did it so there's so much hope for us it doesn't even matter they didn't even it

wasn't like they were on the trajectory from birth everything was fine and then it worked out it's like in a minute they

changed in a minute they got it in a moment they broke through we just need a

minute but you've got to believe you matter now the other part of this and I want

you to contemplate this as well today is that it's not just about you deciding that you matter and

then poof something should happen it's that when you decide that you matter everything that you're going to do is

going to be different because succeeding when you matter and failing when you matter is

also part of the story when you hear a story of a person that succeeded or failed if they matter

their successes and their FA failures matter equally so you can't even say I don't

matter because I didn't succeed because in the context of you mattering your failures matter too it's a Brain Warp a

mind warp the minute you decide you matter every single thing that's ever happened to you is good because it's

part of the story and it helps the US it helps the people who think well C possibly happen for me because here's my

issue or here's what's not working for me and then there's you there's you defying their odds

there's you doing whatever it is that they think they can't do because of whatever it is

that they're going through so if you make this decision today as simple as this for no other

reason than this just I realize I've not been treating myself like I matter all that

much and look at what's the identity really that you have tied yourself into because it helps

to see it is it I need to do something more before I believe I can matter I'm not

special enough I'm not great enough is it the identity of I'm just not that great is it like it's harder for

me is it this doesn't happen for people like me it happens to others but not me I'm not

like that my family is not like that it's just not in the cards for me is it like if it was supposed to happen it

would have happened by now is it I just don't have the energy I'm tired I'm exhausted I just don't

have it I don't know where to start I don't know what's the story about you who are you I'm not beautiful enough I'm

not attracted enough I need to do this I need to look a certain way I need to get this I need to have this like what's the

story because that identity this is the beautiful thing that identity has made you as you are

today it works this is the result so there's nothing wrong it's just this is the

result of that identity on the planet so you can you like a mad scientist like you tested it you tried it out you said

let me have all these thoughts and feelings about me and let's see what kind of life I get when I say kind of a

loser and if I was a little skinnier and a little hotter I'd have more money and I'd have a better relationship and I'd

feel better about myself like let's take all of that identity and let's try it out and let's see what happens voila po

you have it you know this is what happens so then you don't have to say oh my God what's wrong with me you say

oh this is the result let me try something else the thought that it's

hard the thought that it's impossible is based on other people that you have

seen if no one else in your family has ever broke through you believe it less because from being a little kid you

looked up to those people you said they know more than me they can open a jar I can't open a jar they can walk I can't

walk they can talk I can't talk these people are geniuses I will listen to what they say

because they clearly know better than me a lot of who we are is based on what we've

seen the community in our school the teachers the friends the parents whatever it is we pick up little pieces

along the way there are other people on the planet that are showing us other things can we

open our minds a little bit and so this is something I spoke about in my we are alpha fem Community or not we FM in the

Great Leap yesterday before I I I closed it and I want to bring it back for those of you who did not hear this part and I

want to remind you of this because this is so important when you are

experiencing your life when you're experiencing yourself okay hang on my brain just went

and stole what I wanted to say bringing myself back said this in the Great Leap yesterday why did I feel

it was important to bring it back maybe I'm not supposed to say it again right

now is it gone might be gone it might be gone okay if it comes back I'll post it in the group it might

I'll probably watch it to try to remember because right now in this moment it is went but one of the things

that is important on this journey is that you realize you're not going to be perfect and it's not required to be so

every single thing that you test and you try out is going to have a result and then you've got to be able to just

detached from the outcome say what else have I got what other thoughts do I have what other feelings

do I have what what else do I have to try out instead of this must mean I'm just not good enough because that's an

entire identity you know I'm just not good enough I'm just not capable I'm just not special enough I'm just not

this enough that becomes an identity that becomes part of us and what we believe that we

are the fact that we're always becoming more and more added to the previous version um that's why you forgot so you

could show it isn't necessary to be perfect I like that a lot of Who We Are is based on what we've seen is what

you've said yes so when we're looking at the people around us from a young age and we're deciding like because you

could I could or because you can't I can't that's shaping a very immature first few cycles of our

identity work when you say when I look at even my my grandparents Journey my parents

Journey there are things in their identity it was like okay my my mom believed she could travel then I

believed I could travel my dad was a businessman and then I believed I could be a businesswoman there are Parts in

this that feel like identity you you connect to certain things you try it on my dad went bankrupt I was terrified of

going bankrupt I went bankrupt there's things we just pick up but then we forget that we were just trying it

on we forget that we were just playing and seeing what's possible

and so this is the first module and the intention here is to have you just question things a tiny little bit

because as we go deeper and deeper things are going to get solidified and it's going to start to make a lot of

sense but are you already kind of feeling like okay hang on a

second let me start to redefine this for myself with maybe more casual energy than you ever have like there's nothing

wrong with you you don't have to have this huge break bre through like Breakthrough is done what do you want to

try on next a lot of people think this is complicated and it's why they don't

change I want to make this so simple let's just try on different identities so you're going to look back

and you're going to see what did it take for you to become who you are and what can you see in who you are right now

that's mostly modeled with nothing wrong like this is the thing that's the most important like there's nothing wrong

you're not going to say oh my gosh I realize that the reason that I'm in this terrible relationship is because I

watched my mother being in terrible relationships and now this is why I'm this way you're going to say oh my

gosh Okay the reason I'm in this relationship is because the only kind of relationship I saw

interesting that's the energy you're going to say oh my gosh I don't think I've ever

seen a person not struggle with money and so I think somewhere in here the reason I've always struggle with money

is I've never really seen a person that modeled money is kind of easy I don't think I've ever seen that

H you're going to say I don't think I've ever met a person that was truly fully in love with themselves and their body

when I think of all the women in my in my life they always had something about themselves I used to watch my mother

suck her belly in or pull her face back in the mirror to see do I look better with my face like this I I've only ever

seen women pick their bodies apart maybe they just borrowed that huh interesting

like that this is part of the identity work because this is the thing how you study the identity work is also part of

your identity I just remembered what I wanted to say

hallelujah so when I first started doing personal development work I noticed who most people were that were doing

personal development they were all people who did person Al development thinking there was

something wrong with them taking courses hoping that one day they would be better people but with the context that they

were not good enough that they were struggling and that hopefully this would be the thing that would make them better

and I did not want to be that I did not resonate I resonated with personal development when I was alone in my car

the first time I ever went to a personal development event I thought oh gosh I don't know if I want to be one of these

people nobody has confidence in themselves everybody's looking at the person on the stage like they're Jesus

like where where is the personal empowerment these people don't know they're not like I am here because I'm

studying this modality because I'm working on my life they're like oh my gosh I just know it this is going to

change me I was like I never want to be that that is not me I knew that this is not my identity who I related to was the

person on the stage every time I related to the person who had done the work and they all had the same story I started in

a in a a seminar at the back in a back seat of a room just like this one they all started their presentations the same

way I remember the first time I entered a room like this I was sitting in the back

row I related to them they went from being in the room to Leading the room that's the identity I'm

doing personal development for I'm not like all the people who are trying to figure out how someone's going to make

me great I am getting great so I can stand on a stage and tell people how I did it I want you to feel that when

you're in this room with me you're not in a personal development program hoping that you're going to break through like

this is not this this is somehow I found a way to speak to hundreds of you at once and we are having a one-on-one

conversation with a bunch of other people listening but you've got to relate to what I'm saying more than you

relate to the fact that you're a participant in this program you've got to relate more to

being the teacher than the student if that makes sense at all it's got to be part of your identity that you took this

program as the the teacher in the making you took this program as the one who became

great like this is the story of how you became great so you've got to take the program that way you can't take the

program as the one who has no idea and hopes I'm going to say the right thing for you and then maybe you'll change

because or else that's your becoming you got to take this like you've already changed your life and you

get to watch in hindsight how it happened you took this because you knew you were

worth it you knew you mattered and you knew you were capable of change or else you would not be here you've got to

trust the deepest knowing you took money that is was either either easy or hard to spend and you invested it in you

being here you believe in yourself I don't care what you tell me your actions speak louder than your

words here you would not be here if you didn't think it could change something remember that there is something wiser

than this little mind that I have trapped in an identity that I really don't care to keep right now that knows

I'm a freaking genius that is Paving the way for me that is making the moves for me this is who I am this is who I am I

am the making of the greatest story of me that I could possibly be I will do the best I can while I'm

here on this planet and I have evidence of that now because I'm here can you imagine thinking like that about

yourself what would start to happen instead of I hope this works and I'm really going to listen to this one and

I'm really going to try it's like who is that person it's the fifth grader that was afraid to miss their test it's not

the person that's going to be a Pathfinder for the world a Trailblazer for Humanity you don't need to think

like that you say this is part of the way I changed my life and so I'm showing up

for it this in hindsight will matter so much if you decide already that it

will if you hope it will there's a match for that so the goal here of this first

session is first of all to set a really powerful context of who I want you to be when you come into these

sessions like take a few minutes for yourself before we get started and psych yourself up like who am I that's

listening to this even if you've had a tough day and something with money and something with your partner and

something with your health like when you sit here you be like this is the part where I get to lock in and focus on who

I know I am this is the making of me let me be sharp an hour one hour a day you bring

your brain here you bring your mind here you bring your spirit your body your soul you bring everything to the table

here you say this is who I am and watch things change now you may have questions from this first module

and some questions might show up that are coming later in the program so if when I'm reading the questions I'm like

that's coming I won't answer them tomorrow but I will keep keep them in mind and I'll make sure that the answers

are clear when they come but we're going to open a Q&A thread and you'll be able to start thinking and asking questions

on there already don't overthink it if you don't have a question trust that the right question will come out through

someone else in the group if you do have a question don't overthink it like can I ask this should I ask this ask the

question and tomorrow I will deliver an extraordinary Q&A session and a deepening call from what we've talked

about today but you have two parts of your homework one isg energetic and one is actually doing it so the energetic

part is you're you're just deciding that you matter there is no huge breakthrough that needs to be had the breakthroughs

will come after you decide you matter it's that simple but the other thing I really want

you to do is take some time and look at your family lineage call a parent a grandparent an

uncle an aunt try to figure out piece together some of the crazy stories of how you got

here and I'm telling you even if it was complex if you're like but Melanie your story is so beautiful mine's terrible

this happened to my grandma and that's how my mom came to be and then this happened to my mom and then this how it

came to be and then I got adopted and then that's crazy amazing like we need to we need to step

out of the what it should have been and move into the how on Earth could this have been the bottom line is how the

heck are you alive that's what I want you to figure out and so the more tumultuous the story even if it feels

like it's negative it isn't it's just wild and if it was simple if you're like I wish I had a crazy story like yours my

f my family just met and just kind of met I'm going to give you a story that feels a little different than this just

completely different energy from my story now obviously I'm not going to go as far because I don't know the whole

background but just to give you an idea of this Kevin his mom and dad literally lived

five minutes apart in the geographical map of the world they didn't have to cross countries for each other as a

matter of fact Kevin's mom knew of Kevin's dad because he won all the curling things so she had a picture of

him she cut it out of the newspaper and stuck it on her wall next thing she knew someone

introduced her to him the person she had on her wall in her room and then they fell in love and got

married and had two kids and then six years later Kevin which they fnally say was an accident shows up in this

world and so from a loving family that lived these people lived five minutes apart she totally manifested him she

thought he was hot she cut out his picture of the newspaper and next thing she was dating him next thing she was

marrying him next thing she was having kids with them with him and they have been married for over 55

years that's a simple story and it's just as miraculous that you can manifest everything that fast that quick

that easy so don't go doing the thing you do where you even find a way to make your extraordinary becoming not matter

well my story isn't as cool my story is more simple my story is more this stop it tell it in a way that blows your

socks off don't discredit the story that's your job as this new identity of

the person who gets it this is who I am I get it I see it I know it tell yourself the story that way I look

forward to seeing you tomorrow let this linger in your mind if you have breakthroughs if you have thoughts post

them in the group your voice matters your thoughts matter you are the one you're the only one that was you in this

world like you there's a reason you're here so any thoughts you're having post them talk about them any breakthrough

you have are people going to care stop it is it good enough does it matter stop it stop it like it is time to put all of

that down because it all happens in an instant you start living in in alignment

with a different kind of identity just a millimeter off you don't need it to be huge you just change trajectory just a

little bit and the further you go down that trajectory the further you will be from the person you were just days ago

it's not hard but it takes everything it takes commitment and Devotion to an identity but there's no

heavy lifting you're going to be fine we've just got to stay focused and you've got

this and I am bringing the energy like I am here I we have got this this is the moment where you pick up the

paintbrush and you paint the rest of your life not because the the rest of your life is not beautiful but because

you realize now that you get to paint the rest you're not basing your identity on what anybody else is done you're

defying the odds and you're rewriting history and it gets to be fun and you don't need evidence that you

can you need evidence that you could and you just got it on this call it's enough the Breakthrough is done now we

build thank you for your presence thank you for your connection I felt The Vibes I can tell you're like in

the zone this is good do the thing do it fast hang up with me and call somebody right away like let me figure out my

story in this energy with this energy go figure out the rest I look forward to seeing your breakthroughs your

stories I look forward to tomorrow already thank you for being here and I'll will see you so

soon our identity is we know it begins to form from the instant we take our first breath

we start off as a blank slate an open book waiting to be written our early years are filled with

First Steps first sites first discoveries each of these moments shapes us adds a brush stroke to the canvas of

our character as we move through adolescence the picture becomes more complex little

by little we become a mosaic a multifaceted collage of puzzle formed from the fragments of our

[Music] life comes a day where we grasp the paintbrush ourselves we realize that we

need not be defined solely by circumstance that we have the power to paint our own

future we awaken to find that we can reshape our identity our identity continues to evolve but now as an

intentional work of art Guided by our own [Music]

hand we are the artist and the masterpiece [Music]

it is time to step into a greater identity this is the gateway to your alternate life

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