Alpha Male Myth Debunked: Toxic Masculinity, Wolf Pack Lies & Self-Help Scams

Hello and what is up my fellow alpha men? Now it has been a while since I've done

one of these videos. Personally, I think too long. I love doing these videos. I cannot lie. I am hyped for today. Hello,

my name is Sybil. Welcome or welcome back if you are new and a special hello to anyone who is currently wearing

pajamas. Okay, yeah, yeah, sure. A special hello to anyone who also has some kind of little vampire in their

bedroom. And a special hello to anyone who also noticed my camera might be slightly tilted. I can never tell.

Is it like that? Does it need to be like this or is it perfect and I'm freaking out, man? Okay, today we are going to

grip those cheeks, pull them apart, and get into alpha men. Every time I talk about alpha men, I just want to make an

omegaverse joke. I I can't help it. >> Andrew Tate pulled up in his Bugatti of an undisclosed color. Getting [music]

out, he locked eyes with Edward Cullen. "We should not be doing this." said the shorter, smaller man.

>> We got we got some bangers today. Let's get into it. >> strong women like this. It's mostly men

who are like >> for sure. >> I'm a alpha, so when I talk to you and

you tell me that and you're a alpha >> Hold on. YOU SAID YOU'RE AN ALPHA? >> I'M A ALPHA male for sure.

>> You know that's not a real thing, right? >> There's There's alpha animals. >> There's alpha animals.

>> You know that study they did was based off of like a family of wolves, not a real thing, right?

>> got a PhD in this? Do tell. >> Do you want to look it up? >> If you're going to have facts, you just

got to have a little thing behind it. I'm just talking professionally. Did you look it up?

>> The term alpha male is outdated and inaccurate. A study has shown wolf packs are more family oriented dominated by a

single male. >> another study since then? >> it was disproven.

>> There are so many things I want to start with this one. First of all, a guy who's a self-proclaimed alpha male thinking

that proving his alpha male-ness is having an alpha male off with a woman is just really funny to me. Just the idea

of being like >> I'm such an alpha male that I'm about to have an alpha off with this girl.

>> Cuz she has a microphone and it's making me insecure. And then him pulling up being like, "Do

you have a PhD in this?" He doesn't even know the study. He doesn't even know what she's talking about and he has the

goal to be like, do you have a PhD in this? Like, bro, just say you don't know [ __ ] Just say that you're talking out

your ass from a podcast you listened to being like, well, there's alphas in wolf packs and then

somebody else is like, oh, here's here's a study and then you're the one that's going to be like, oh, do you have a PhD

in this? Buddy, you're the one who tried to assert knowledge and got dick down in the process. That That's not on her.

That's on you. >> [laughter] >> Also, I am so sick of this argument

anywhere where it's like, well, in nature. Sure, we could always look to nature for facts. We can always look to

nature for similarities, but at the end of the day we are our own species. What do you mean well in nature? There are

thousand hundreds of thousands, millions of species on this planet. So many of them do things different to one another.

And there is something innately different about humans compared to some of these other species. I mean just look

at the world and how we've, well, ruined it with industrialization, the destroying of our own habitat, but

also the building of it. >> [laughter] >> There's a lot to be said in that. I'm

not going to get too deep into it, but my my point being there's clearly something different there. So, looking

to a pack of wolves as like how you think men and women should behave in human modern society

makes dead ass no [ __ ] sense because yes, we are an animal, but so are so many other animals. There

are animals that are matriarchies. I'll just list them on the screen right now. But you're clearly not looking to those

ones because you have this idea that women are inferior and that the male should be the alpha. So, you won't look

at any other thing that you could potentially relate to or connect to because you don't want to. That

You can't just be like, well, there's alphas in wolves, so therefore as a male I am an alpha male. That just doesn't

You see what I'm saying? It just doesn't make sense. >> [music]

>> I know I'm setting myself up right now for a well, you're exactly what I think a gay person would look like joke from

some homophobe in the comment section, but that dude wearing that shirt did exactly what I thought he would do.

>> [laughter and gasps] >> Like if I see a man If I see a man >> If I see a man

>> at a club and he's dressed like that, that is the exact attitude I'm expecting to come out of it. I'm sorry. And you

know what? I'll make it worse for myself. I probably would have bought that shirt as a middle school lesbian.

Actually, that might be worse for him, too. No, but in all seriousness, asserting dominance is not getting onto

a table at a club and taking your shirt off and flexing. I don't know who you're trying to attract because I don't know.

From my experience with women, and not just gay women, like I mean like my friends and stuff, this peacocking thing

that guys do really is a turn-off for a lot of them. I'm sure it works on some ladies. From what I know, it it's not

found as super attractive to be like, I'm the hottest one here. Look at me. I'm going to take my shirt off on this

club table with the ladies to actually be dancing. Also, that's a whole other thing. Get men out of clubs. No, like

they can be there, right? But like it used to be that women were dancing on the tables and everybody was having a

good time, and it's like, yeah, but now it's like bros standing on the tables just kind of like going

with the frat flick and taking their shirts off like that. Bring back clubbing.

Unless you're going to get on the [ __ ] club table and dance your ass off, then you are allowed. It's more so

about are you performing? Because the table is for somebody who is performing, not taking off their shirt for me. What

I feel like I've lost the plot already and we're not even that far in. >> Let's get one thing very clear.

I don't avoid conflict because I'm scared of you. >> [music]

>> I avoid conflict because I'm scared of myself. My temper can go from zero to death row

really quick. >> I need a [ __ ] fedora for videos specifically like that one. I need a I

need a setup for the bit. I just I I can see the person who made this video behind the screen and I just

>> You see I am quick to anger. >> [sighs] >> And even quicker to slaughter.

>> Also, it doesn't make you like edgy or cool or scary to have uncontrollable anger issues that you're not willing to

get help for. Like what what what what about being like, "Oh my god, my self-control is so

bad that I unleash on people when they upset me." is supposed to make me respect you or think that you're

awesome. Like no, go get some help. That I That doesn't make me scared of you or think you're cool. That makes me think

that you're somebody to worry about. I don't think it's alpha to just have absolutely zero control over yourself.

Get some help. Granted, I do think videos like that are definitely all talk, no bite. It's somebody behind a

computer screen trying to make themselves feel better in the worst way possible and just a

very toxic way. >> What's your favorite quote of all time? >> Go through life like the Karate Kid,

Britney Spears. >> Did she say that? >> She said that, yeah.

>> Oh, wow. >> Yeah, it's just about you're always learning and you're always fighting.

>> Do you have any other quotes that you like? >> You can throw me to the wolves all you

want, but don't be surprised when I come back leading the pack. >> Lisa Vanderpump.

>> That's her quote? >> On Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, that's her.

>> She said that? >> She sure did. >> Well, I got it's from one of those like

alpha male accounts with like it shows It's a wolf running, but that's kind of pathetic if they stole it from a reality

TV star. >> Okay, I got to be honest, the setup of that one it might be fake, it might be

staged, and if it is, that's so funny. >> [laughter] >> But if it's not,

>> [snorts] >> the idea of interrupting a street interview to give your own wisdom while

somebody's in the middle of speaking and answering question is so dickish. And like I I 100% admit this I might be

getting rage baited right now because this one absolutely could be faked. To come it up and being like, I listen to

alpha male podcasts, and I really like the wolf running videos, and my favorite quote is from Lisa Vanderpump, but I'm

going to change my favorite quote now that I know that. We're going to skip past that one pretty quickly though cuz

I think it could be fake. I think I thought it was just funny. I wanted to put it in here. But something that could

never be faked, Andrew Tate everyone. Upon further inspection, this is in fact not Andrew Tate, but I don't remember

his name because that is how forgettable they all are to me. So, I'm going to keep calling him Andrew Tate, but it I

don't I don't think it is. >> As a man, what age should you consider getting married? 35 years old, had slept

with at least 50 women, 100k per year, you're in shape, and you got 6 months to 1 year of savings.

>> I'm sorry, there's just something about alpha men taking the idea of marriage, which historically isn't about love,

it's about selling a woman to a man, but we have modernized the understanding of marriage. Not everywhere, not everyone,

but I think mostly in the US we've we've modernized marriage into an idea where it's supposed to be about falling in

love and getting married because you want to, because you feel that way. And again, that's not every family, that's

not every culture, and I understand that. But, you know, the movies we watch growing up, the TV shows, the stories

your parents tell you, the things your friends say. Do you love him? Do you want to marry him? This is going to be

the happiest day of my life, right? So, with modern marriage, the idea is to be happy and to fall in love. So, why are

we saying that you need to sleep with 50 th- 50,000? 50,000?

>> [screaming] >> BUT, WHY DO YOU NEED TO SLEEP with 50 people if you find somebody right away?

Perfect. If you find somebody after 50 people, perfect. I don't think that there's I understand what he's trying to

say is you should have experience. You should have played the field. But, that's not always completely necessary

to find the right person for you, and I think it's a very sad idea to be like, "Oh, I have found the perfect person for

me that I love so dearly, and I think we could have a wonderful life together, but I'm going to ruin it because I

haven't slept with 50 people. I'm going to give up this perfect situation, this perfect person for me because I haven't

met these obscure set of rules that another man has set for me." And also, financially, yes, marriage can be

expensive, especially if you are somebody who dreams of a big wedding or wants a specific set of things for that

day. But, I don't think money should be your end-all be-all for marriage. I think if you guys are happy and you feel

successful in your relationship, then I I don't think you should let money hold you back from being with somebody you

love. And obviously, if you want a big wedding, maybe hold off until you're financially ready for that because I do

think everybody's entitled to their their own wants and needs for a wedding. Uh some people would just go to a

courthouse, and they'd be done with it off their McDonald's paycheck. And if they're happy and in love, and that

works for them, then they deserve to be with each other. And if for Andrew Tate, having slept with 50 people and a 100K

in the bank is what he needs for himself, cool. Although, I still think he's not married, and he's definitely

over 35 now. But, anyways, cool if that's your own set uh standards for yourself, but to look at other people

and be like, you need to do this to be successful in your marriage is so strange. Also, there is nothing gayer

than listening to a man tell you exactly how to [ __ ] act and be and do for daddy to make him happy.

>> Be who you are. >> Happy Pride Month to the alpha men who absolutely get their cheeks spread by

these male podcasters and submit to them only doing their bidding and their will, so maybe they could one day get the

approval of somebody like them. >> What are the requirements for women? >> There's a bunch of things, but if I'm

going to just sum it up, it all The most important thing is compliance, and from there everything can build. That's the

foundation. That's the foundation, yeah. >> What does that mean? Compliance as in >> I'm sorry, but the reason that's the

foundation and anything can build on top of it is because once somebody is fully submissive and compliant to you, you can

say, do, or act any way towards them, with them, and they cannot do anything about it. So, what he is essentially

asking for is somebody to do his complete bidding, and that's why it's That's the only requirement and anything

else can be worked on is because once you have compliance, you have everything from that person. That's [ __ ] up.

That's saying you want a partner who has no free will. That's saying you want somebody who will do every last thing

for you with no complaint. You're saying that you don't want a person, you want a doll. That's incredibly weird to me. And

once you throw things like legal paperwork into there and marriage, I'm sorry, but that's just not okay. I And I

can't imagine looking at somebody being like, "Ah, yes, I want to completely from scratch build what I want to be the

perfect person." Instead of getting to know people, instead of falling in love, instead of finding somebody who I love

for them and that loves me completely for me, why would you want to just build somebody? Oh god, now I'm thinking about

AI robots and how people are absolutely going to have robot wives in the future that are just

>> [sighs and gasps] >> misogyny. >> And like you're just willing to do

whatever you want. >> Following the rule. Following following my lead.

Because, you know, I always say a man in lead is going to lead that relationship to success if he knows what he's doing

versus a woman in leadership role. She's going to lead all right to the end of the relationship.

>> You happy? Like you're a happy guy. >> No, I'm actually very happy. >> It's it's all misogyny. It's the entire

idea of men and women can't be equals because the man has to take control. The man has to lead. The man is the only

person that is going to be successful. If we look at the course of history, it's just not true. I'm not saying that

there haven't been successful men in leadership roles. I'm just saying we sure as hell have seen a lot of

unsuccessful men in leadership roles. And actually, I think the happiest and healthiest countries like in the top 10

are women ruled. Women ruled. Women ruled. So, just something to think about. I'm not

saying that women can't [ __ ] up. I'm just saying that women aren't given the chance. We still haven't had a woman

president in the US. And that's not because women aren't capable. It's because people have thought processes

like these. They truly believe that a woman will get on get her period and then [ __ ]

go to nuclear war. Like they truly believe this [ __ ] I think it really sucks to look at these videos and be

like, "Wow, they do not see their partner as an equal. They expect their partner to respect them completely and

fully, but give nothing back other than what they call leading." Because because right? Like he's like, "I'll provide a

leader to success in life, but she has to give up her total freedom and completely submit to everything I say

and do." And I just I don't know. I just can't do it. >> Let me ask you a question.

How come women say that they want a manly man? A man that's going to protect, provide,

and handle the situations that need to be handled for them. But then

when that man starts doing some man [ __ ] and actually protecting you, pushing away intruders,

pushing away people that are threatening you, or harassing you,

you then say that he's being overbearing or too assertive or too aggressive.

Men are supposed to be aggressive. We're raised at very young age to never take a backwards step to anybody.

But every time that it seems that that happens in somebody's life,

when they do the man [ __ ] the woman starts pushing them away. I'm serious. I'm actually curious about

this. Why is that? >> This video has a lot of things that I take issue with and I think because he's

asking as an open and honest question, we'll answer open and honestly. I think a lot of it comes down to perception.

You're perceiving it as protection and asserting dominance, whereas she might be looking at the

situation as you being controlling. There's a difference between a creepy guy coming up to her at a club, making

her uncomfortable, and you being like, "Back the [ __ ] up." versus somebody sliding into her Instagram DMs, and you

threatening to, you know, them. And I think that's where a lot of people do misunderstand the boundary and

the line of there is a difference between protecting and losing your [ __ ] mind,

if that makes sense. The difference there is somebody is overstepping boundaries. Somebody is continuously

trying to harass somebody. Somebody is trying to get what they want out of a situation that has been told no, versus

somebody just politely being like, "Hey, how's it going?" and you freaking the [ __ ] out, to be honest. I think that's

really where the difference lies is you think you're being protective, you think you're taking care of a situation, when

in reality a lot of times you're just making it a lot worse. You're coming off as extremely jealous and possessive.

You're asking your girlfriend, "Where are you going? Who are you going with? Who's going to be there?" Blah, blah,

blah. Rather than actually being uh {quote} {unquote} protector. Rather than actually being a safe space, you come

off as a negative space because there is a line and I've found that a lot of people don't know where that line is

when it comes to jealousy versus protecting. That's my two cents. I'm sure there's a lot more to be said on

the topic. I'm sure there's going to be a lot of comments on that one and I welcome them obviously other people's

opinions and thoughts. But to to me, I think that is where the line gets drawn. You don't come off as manly, you come

off as possessive and you come off yourself then as as creepy and weird. And I think it's sad that you talk about

how men are raised to be aggressive and to never take a back step and to always basically be on their guard in this like

assertive state because take a breather. It's fine. I mean, if every man wasn't raised that way, then

there wouldn't nearly be as much conflict and agitation as there is right now. If men weren't societally raised to

be angry, to be aggressive, then there wouldn't be as many issues as there are now. It boils down to the saying that

I've seen a lot before, which is "If all the men were gone, who would be there to protect you?" And the common

answer to that question is, "Protect me from who?" The highest amount of perpetrators for violent crimes are men.

That's just That's just facts. That's just objectively true. And so, if we toned down the societal raising of men

as these aggressive, angry monsters, we'd probably be way less scared in the world. Let's Let's watch one more.

>> Ready? Move. >> Last August, I found myself following a group of men who'd each paid $3,000 to

be blindfolded, thrown into a van, and driven into the central Virginia wilderness. My journey there had begun

some months earlier on X, when I began following a guy named Nick Adams, who presented himself as an alpha male

influencer. >> America wasn't built by the quiet. It was built by men who spoke first, stood

tall, and didn't care who got >> uncomfortable. >> Actually, America was built on the

slaughter of Native Americans and the use of slaves to build America. America was not built by white people, point

blank, period. America was completely founded on bloodshed over and over, time after time again. The land itself and

the way that the land was built on after. They didn't care about who they made uncomfortable. No, you you mean

they didn't care about anyone. They didn't care about any moral. I don't think it's something you

should chase after. The idea of being so [ __ ] heartless and corrupt that you're willing to do absolutely anything

to anyone, destroy lives for your own self-gain. I think humans work better when we work as a community. I don't

think there's anything alpha about promoting people to act in themselves how America acted to be built. That is

insane. >> I began receiving targeted ads for programs that promised to turn me into

an alpha male or SOMETHING LIKE IT. >> SORRY, IT LOOKS LIKE HE'S PEEING ON THEM.

>> EACH program that I visited had the trappings of a kind of want-to-be military hell.

I visited a program in Southern California called Squire, run by a gym franchiser named Bedros Keuilian. Squire

targets fathers and sons. A few of the sons looked like they were stoked to be there, but many actually

looked more like hostages to me. >> They do look like hostages. Those are babies. Oh my god, it's so sad seeing

these like 16-year-old boys forced into these situations where they're being blindfolded and told to run through

barbed wire and take ice baths chasing after what? Their father's approval? No, maybe not even that. Maybe being

completely forced by their parents to go. This is sick, honestly.

>> The coach described to me as the hammer, instructed the boys to run around with sledgehammers, to do frog jumps, to do

pull-ups, obstacle courses scattered with rusty nails and barbed wire. >> That's like a [ __ ] 14-year-old right

there. This is so weird. >> He had them get into an ice bath for more than 8 minutes.

>> Two more and you're done. >> We got it together. We got it together. >> But I was inclined to see something at

least in the Rise program. Rise is run by a former Marine, motivational speaker, and substance abuse

professional named Brandon King. I watched these men up close for 3 days as they went through physical ordeals that

made them pliable for a kind of rough-hewn therapy conducted in bro speak.

>> Let's go, James. >> Get up there, on top of the hill now. >> Come on, James.

>> These men were lonely, they were anxious, they were depressed. They felt a a bleak outlook in their

personal and professional life. An unemployed Army veteran in Arizona was brought to tears shortly into a low

crawl up a steep gravel driveway admitting to the group that he had erectile dysfunction. Another

participant who was being sprayed with a hose while he was wallowing in a mud pit told the group that he had experienced

horrible childhood abuse and neglect. On the final morning of the Rise program, I walked to a mountain top with

the guys who sat and journaled for a while as the sun rose. The founder of Rise, who has tried to be

an alpha male himself for years, told me that he'd ultimately decided that the right kind of man should have qualities

of both a beta and an alpha male. [music] He described this kind of man as a

sovereign male. And he believes that that's what he's creating.

>> I think the difference between those two camps, I guess we'll call them, that we just saw is one which is like

an off-brand wannabe army training camp forcing children to get into ice baths

and participate in rusty nail barbed wire runs versus a group of men who have willingly themselves chose to go on

these adventures and do these courses that are much more fitness based than what we saw in the first ones where they

are also doing therapy at the same time. And I don't know much about either, so I'm not going to sit here and be like

this one good, this one bad, but just what we saw we can see there's a difference, right? There's the men who

are lonely and depressed and they are doing something to try to better themselves physically and mentally by

choice with somebody who actually has experience versus a fitness instructor blindfolding little boys and telling

them to be alpha males. That's [ __ ] weird. I think I want to end this with saying um be who you are. Genuinely

though, um you you don't need to look to some podcast alpha male to tell you how to dress, eat, and act, who to tell you

how to rise and shine in the morning. I think the world would be better if more people expressed themselves and and were

genuinely who they are because I think living in the seclusion of not is a lot scarier and it really takes

away the chance for the world to see how amazing you you actually are. We don't all need to be carbon copies of each

other. Happy Pride Month. This is the first video I'm recording in Pride Month ironically. [laughter]

Um but hopefully I have some more pride related stuff out later. Thank you guys. If you like the video, please like it.

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