From Discipline to Self-Discipline: 4 Key Steps to Success

I tell my children you will be disciplined you can either choose to be self discipline do it yourself or you

can Outsource the discipline to somebody else you can Outsource the discipline to a teacher to a boss even Society I mean

think about it if you make bad decisions and you choose to drive drunk let's say okay that's a choice you make you're

lacking the self-discipline well a judge you can Outsource the discipline to a judge the judge will make sure that

you're disciplined okay but either way you will be disciplined so in today's episode we're going to talk about the

transition from discipline to self-discipline let's start off with a cute story all right years ago I walked

into World's Gym in Burbank and I had a chance to meet Paul Paul was a trainer SL sales rep there and he was an amazing

guy he walks me through the facility he says Jamie I'm going to take a personal interest in you know your growth what do

you want to accomplish and he's writing everything down I'm like oh you know what are my goals what do I want to

accomplish what am I willing to compromise like we had a discussion about cheese and beer I said I want to

keep those in my diet what can we do and so he drew out a plan and he gave me an extremely favorable rate so I'm like huh

this is awesome so I prepaid for 15 months UPF front to get this favorable rate and I go to meet Paul at the gym

and he followed through with what he said he was going to do he trained me he's on the treadmill it felt like pepy

Lew he's sort of trotting even though he's going faster than me and I'm like just trying to catch my breath here but

I'm like I like that this guy is you know running me hard and doing what he says he's going to do fast forward the

clock a couple Weeks Later Paul calls me into his office well again I'm getting to know Paul we're developing this

relationship and he says you know hey Jamie he says I really feel like you misrepresented yourself like you said

this is what you were going to do and you haven't been doing it I want to give you a full refund we don't want guys

like you in our gym and I'm like what I mean just a big kick in the butt I here I am now selling myself to Paul on Paul

please keep my money I'm like what kind of reverse salesmanship is this the customers like selling the merchant on

please keep my money don't give me the refund again I'm selling myself on I'm G to follow through and I'm going to do

the things that I say I'm going to do and Paul gives me a second chance next thing you know I'm following through

with the correct amount of discipline and eventually Paul didn't need to hold me accountable he didn't need to

discipline me that was a good example of how I went from the discipline from Paul the kick in the butt from Paul the

accountability from Paul to eventually getting into the routine and habit of self-discipline so let's unpack that a

little bit how exactly did Paul do that how do we go from being disciplined and a big kick from Paul disciplined to

owning at ourselves I have four points on discipline to self-discipline first one

is discipline from others is okay it's okay to listen I don't have it yet I'm not self-disciplined yet I have to

Outsource it to somebody else think about Hollywood somebody's got to an actor's got to lose a bunch of weight

they'll hire somebody to come in to discipline them you know cook the right meals for them take them to the gym it

is okay to Outsource that discipline just understand it's got to be temporary eventually we've got to own it you think

about growing up as a child your parents owned all the discipline at one point in time everything in your life was owned

by your parents and as time went on and we developed confidence in a track record they started piecing it off like

you became self-disciplined you did your own homework you did your own chores you went to bed on your own without having

to be told that so we're going down that path I just want to just start off saying it's okay to Outsource it just

knowing it's temporary and I have to own it I've got to own it all I need to be a self-disciplined individual discipline

is really the key to success I mean you think of all the different ingredients that it takes to be successful you're

going to have a really difficult time fighting anybody who's super successful that lacks discipline so again just you

know you got to own it don't be shy to Outsource it in the beginning at some point in

time Point number two when dealing with our coaches we need to be 100% honest and

transparent too many times we'll act like we're not sure why we're struggling and we neglect to give important pieces

of information like listen I was on my phone and distracted a good chunk of the day and this is why I wasn't successful

like that's kind of an important piece of information to give to your coach so let's just make sure that we're

transparent there's a time my son and I were at a mall and we were looking at this kiosk a guy selling some shoe shine

products and I'm like look at all the people walking past this guy as he's just sitting there you can tell he's not

really that motivated and I ask my son I'm like what conversation do you think this guy's having with his boss at the

end of the day do you think he's transparent do you think he's being honest on why he's not hitting the

numbers I'm assuming he's not hitting the numbers I mean he must have let 20 or 30 people walk right past them you

got to pitch everybody and if he was pitching everybody he'd probably get the numbers but when it comes to coaching as

a student bring your dirty laundry to the table you don't have to just bring all the successes to the table looking

for a pat on the back although that is good bring the dirty laundry to the table bring the stuff that you know you

you don't really want to say you're a little ashamed of it if you will but that's the stuff that your coach needs

to hear and chances are your coach will be motivated like I've got a really honest individual here that I'm working

with I appreciate you bringing the dirty laundry to the table the third

Point routines and rituals create habits so you might lack the discipline or the self-discipline in the beginning but if

you create the routine you're in the habit of doing it was asking my son the other day I'm like how many times you

think I'm actually motivated to go to the gym and he's trying to come up with a number I'm like it's zero I have never

been motivated but half the time I don't even think about it because it's a habit it's a routine it's part of the schedule

so look to get routines and rituals in your life to really create the habits you don't even have to think about it

you think about this again a habit is your your body your mind making decisions without having to consciously

make a decision it's a habit so create the routines create the rituals my fourth and final point is

when you fall off the wagon when you fail let it go we need short-term memory I've been coaching Little League

Sports for over a decade now and I've really adopted this I'm like listen we all need amnesia I can't remember what

happened oh I just threw a pick six did I really threw a pick you know I can't remember you got to let it go it's too

easy to dwell on failures I had a rep in my office years ago I really like working with him Charles Roberts and I'm

looking at his resume I'm like oh a CFL player you know an athlete from Sacramento that played you know up in

Winnipeg in British Columbia and I'm like oh he was you know one of the best rushing backs of all time he's only one

of six players in CFL history that rushed for over 10,000 yards average 5.4 yards per carry like you know he was a

stud and he was the guy that really intro introduced this to me he goes Jamie when you fumble and trust me you

you really feel the weight of your loss and the failure because you really let your team down you're walk into the

sidelines and your head is low he says you got to have that Amnesia you got to have the short-term memory because you

know you're going to be getting back in the game soon and you can't hang on to that so when you drop the ball when

you're lacking the self-discipline oh I knew I was supposed to go to the gym but I didn't and you

feel like garbage all day long you know what get over that because tomorrow's going to be a new day so short-term

memory Amnesia I hope you guys enjoyed that we're going from discipline to self-discipline I wish you the best of

luck with that