Why Gen Z Men Avoid Asking Women Out: Dating Realities Explained

wrapped up in my sleeping bag, looking out the window at Aaron's house as the sun is beginning to creep over

the horizon and the trees are silhouetted black against the emerging blue sky with the

fading stars up in the sky. And I think to myself how much I hate Aaron because he's got it [ __ ] made with this

fantastic house of his. This nice little piece of property tucked away out in the back woods of South Dakota.

God, I [ __ ] hate him. Hope he dies. Hope he dies of syphilis. You piece of [ __ ]

It's one of those things where the pieces to the puzzle are all there in front of you. You just got to put it

together, right? you you find the pieces of the puzzle puzzle and you organize the pieces and then it's like all and

then you're off to other things because I don't know we got jobs or something but no one puts the puzzle to the pieces

back together coming up with the finalized conclusion like oh my god this is what the puzzle pieces are telling us

when we put them together and as a a conclusion a definitive thing because I got an article here which it's recent

but I think the data is like a year old or but it doesn't matter I don't think anyone's

declaratively stated it. Uh what all the data has told us, let me read through the article here. The the

data is going to be nothing new. 45% of guys 18 to 25 have never asked a girl out in person from a month or two ago.

Apparently asking someone and of course it's written by a girl. Hang on. Should I do the Ray thing? Emily Brown, would

I? What happened? That's ours. Why can't I What can't Wait a minute.

So, the website is relevant magazine, which it's not relevant. If you got to say relevant,

it won't Are you going to show me who Emily Brown is or not? Oh god. Just Oh my god. I'll just look

up Emily Brown. I know you guys are just as curious as if I'm going to as as I am about Wood or Woodnot. Relevant

magazine. Emily Brown. Emily Brown. Emily Brown. Here it is. Emily is the Instagram. Now,

I'm gonna get pictures or is there going to be some weird [ __ ] going on? Oh, God. Jesus.

Come on, man. Really? I just want to make a point like, hey,

you know, I had this observation. Here's here's the conclusion, right? We did the all the proof. We just didn't get to the

very last line of concluding this mathematical or logical proof. And now you throw me this curve. She her. Of

course. Of course. Managing editor of Relevant magazine and you have less followers than I do. And

And I'm sorry, lady. You're overweight. Okay. I'm not slamming on you. I'm just Come on. Come on. Just stop. Please

stop. If I was some fat guy who smokes cigarettes and had a bad diet, right,

and I'm on 18 different meds meds, would you take health advice from me? I mean, I don't even give that much health

advice except basic stuff like, "Hey, you should go work out. You should lift weights and exercise and keep the carbs

to a minimum." Right. Right. But at least I'm in shape. At least, you know, I could keep up with a guy half my age.

Come on, lady. You're given dating and you you to you're opening your mouth period on this. Why don't you open up a

health blog while you're at it? Come on. Oh god. Okay, Emily, you you throw in your two

cents here on the sex war. I got to back that off. That's coming. Or am I too loud? I think that's it. There we go.

We're figuring it out, boys and girls. We're figuring it out. Uh,

hang on. Apparently, asking someone out face to face is a lost art for Gen Z. Recent

research from date psychology found that 45% of men's ages 18 to 25 have never asked a woman out in person. OMG, click,

like, and subscribe. What do you think? Comment below. Or you could just become a mechanic. I

think today I might work on the motorcycle. Instead, most are relying on dating

apps, DMs, and other form of digital communication to make a move. I'm I'm going to call that I think we're going

to officially call moving on to other conclusions. I think we could just stop with dating apps, right? That's not

dating there. So, so what is it? Trace instances of dates occur, right? The they always say parts per million. You

know, how many how much fecal material is there in your food? Parts per million. Dude, no joke. It's parts per

10,000 uh dates or dates per 10,000. It's ineffective. You know, the the three parts per million of feal material

in my food is is quite low actually compared to historical standards. And it it's it might as well be zero.

So almost half of young men haven't asked women out period. Yeah. Yeah, sure. DM.

Okay. Okay. The study points to a few similar culprits. rising social anxiety, fear of rejection, and growing

dependence on screens for conversation. I not not saying those aren't happening. Those are the politically correct

answers that albeit are true. I'm going to say it again. Men are doing unconsciously most of them. Yeah, they

don't like being rejected. Sure. But unconsciously they're doing a costbenefit analysis and

they're pretty accurately assessing that you're probably there's a pretty good chance you're going to say no. Right? If

your girls said yes, guys would probably there's there's a fishing hole. I go there an hour a day and I fish. I catch

about four or five fish every hour. Oh, that's that's one every 10 12 minutes. Yeah. Well, I should go fishing there,

too. They go back to the fishing hole. when you go there and fish for 5 hours, you get a couple bites, but nothing

lands in the boat. And I did I even I remember it now more researched on this. I thought I went

into the fascinating world of how failure or rejection uh depending on what you're attempting

to do and therefore fail at. how one instance of failure affects your likelihood to try again. It's actually a

real fascinating world. Uh uh the casinos do it right because what are the they want they want to maximize the

profits. So they got to figure out okay what's the optimal amount of successes we got to throw in there so that you try

again or if you if you get shot down what are the chances of you not trying again? Dating apps again have become

this too where it's not about dating, it's about you sliping through and paying and never finding and paying

perpetually monthtomonth. Um injury like if you get injured on a motorcycle, how likely or less likely are you? So asking

a girl out applying for jobs, any kind of attempt, each type of

uh endem endeavor you're trying to achieve. Each type of goal has a different

fail uh uh repeat rate and I think gamblers depend especially if you're addicted that repeat rate is

very high. You'll keep going until you win because you're addicted. But with women rejecting what was it? It's a

was it it was a majority like you're you're 60% less likely each instance thereafter and after five instances it

might as well be zero. It was some something like after five instances, you're down to 1 in 10,000. Then there's

a a refractory period or recover and you you go again. And that also varies depending on what you're trying to do.

It's really interesting. Very interesting. Very nerdy. Very actuarial. I wish Fred was alive to talk about it.

But I think yes, they're afraid and social anxiety. Blah blah blah blah. Two things. Are there any hot chicks that

really compel a guy to ask you out? No. That's one thing you're not going to talk about, right, Emily? That there

aren't guys knocking at your door. Um, but then I also think these guys, they've asked once, they've

asked twice, and maybe it's even like a higher reluctance rate for younger men where they've they've done once or

twice, or they've just gotten close enough and they haven't gotten the handkerchief dropped, or there's

absolutely no indication the girl is going to say yes. I think it's not so much it's risk aversion,

but it's not risk aversion of fear, though that certainly plays into it. I think it's just risk aversion of wasting

your time. It's risk aversion of of uh an economic loss, whether that's time or money.

Cuz if I'll give you another example, do you know why people stop going to nightclubs? Definitely by the time

they're 30, more likely mid to late 20s. Cuz men don't men aren't getting they're not getting laid. It's a waste of time.

They're not afraid to go to the nightclub. They're not afraid to like go pay the cover. They're not afraid to go

buy a drink. It's just annoying. It's costly and it doesn't work. You know, it really is like you're just

afraid to go fishing in that fishing hole because you're afraid the fish won't bite. It's like I'm not afraid of

the fish. They're not afraid of the fish. They're afraid of taking their boat, hooking it

up to the truck, driving the truck down and putting it in the landing, going out there and wasting two hours of their day

or three or whatever. I think it's economic loss uh that is really driving men away. And you don't have to actually

go in there. There's other things that inform young men's decisions, mainly social media, right? Show show us where

you girls say something to quote Oddball from Kelly's Heroes. Why don't you say something righteous and hopeful for a

change? H they see their buddies get shot. You know, marriage, right? You don't you

don't propose to a girl on the first date. What do you got? You got to look at everybody else who got married. I'm

like, "Oh, [ __ ] this shit." Like, I don't need to go to I don't need to go to North Korea to figure out I don't

want to go there because anytime some Westerner gets in there because they're going to make friends, they always get

killed or have brain damage when they get out. I I don't need to go there. Few familiar culprits. Rising social

anxiety. Eh, fear of rejection. Sure. Growing dependence on screens for conversation. And it's very

statistically unlikely they're going to succeed, right? People have become accustomed to digital

communications as a default. The researchers known. Okay, let's fine. The young kids are on them interwebs and

their phony phones nowadays. I could have swore there's these thing called dating apps. Those kids must be

swimming in dates, right? No. The failure rate in online dating is by an order of magnitude. Well, I'd have to do

it 10 to get one in 520. Yeah, we're talking two orders of magnitudes less than asking someone out in person, which

is again why I recommend people ask all people in person. uh they're going online where it's even

worse. The rejection rate is even worse. As a result, real world social skills are not being practiced as often leading

to increased anxiety, uncertainty, and face-to-face interactions. Eh, it's a trend that tracks with broader shifts

among Gen Z where relationships are more likely to start online than across a crowded room. Apps have made connection

more accessible, but they've also made it easier to avoid the risks and awkwardness of putting yourself out

there, right? with a one in 10,000, you know, parts per million chance. Uh the findings also line up with other

recent studies showing that many young men adult young adults are delaying or opting out of traditional dating

altogether, citing everything from mental health struggles to career pressure to postpandemic social ex

where I'm like, dude, if I was single, man, I' I'd go right over there. I am trying to figure out the last time.

There's a gal at the grocery store, but she had it got closer. She had tattoos all on her legs. So, it wasn't that. I

It the Sorry, ladies. You know, the bees got to be attracted to the flowers. It has to be a a petal in bloom.

Can't be this ratty old tatted up nose pierced flower with no petals. For now, first dig digital first dating

is becoming the new normal. Is it? But whether swiping replaces the adrenaline rush of real life, ask, that's still up

for debate. That was it. That was the article. Hang on, let me close out of this. All

these I gota I gotta get brave and I gotta get I gotta get a gold wave.

All right. I think what's happening here, not to say that younger men aren't afraid and

the online ding and all that, I think they're men are just becoming good economists. They're just becoming good

assessors of risk. And what I think we found through trial and error, trial and tribulation, but have yet to state the

final line on our theorem and proof is that probably the best dating strategy is to just wait for the girl to let you

know. And I'll go old man's story. I'll tell you this. The vast majority of the dates I went on, the girl simply didn't

want to be there. I don't know why. I don't know why they were there. I'll be perfectly honest. You almost have to

appreciate the well, you should appreciate the women that turn you down because they were saving you and

themselves some times. But then there are a lot of girls where the vast majority of my dating experience was

like tooth pulling. It wasn't fun. They weren't enjoyable. They didn't want to be there. And I can't imagine they're

going after me for my I don't know if they were bored, they wanted a free movie or what. Lord knows what the

motivation was, but they just did not want to be there. Now, contrast that though. However,

to the girls who definitely wanted to be with me, it was a night and day difference. And every guy has told you

that's a fraction of the effort. They will crawl over barbed wire to get to you sometime. Then then they go too far

and then they're creepy and become stalker sometimes. But it was way more fun, way more

enjoyable, way more easy when the girl actually wanted to go on a date with you. And I know that sounds self-evident

when you say it, but when we look at the vast majority of dating, even marriages, what it is is the guy pleading and

negotiating with the girl, another human being, to come and hang out with them, right?

And if you think of it from that perspective, well, the that means you have to convince them and they don't

really want to. And even to the point that some women don't really want to marry the men they

want. they marry the men they settle for which I disagree with. Yeah. Now that means only like 8 to 10% of men would

get married to the women who like viscerally want them. Although that creates the paradigm that guy likely has

a hero never sell for one. But but that aside, if you look at the vast majority of marriages, it's just the gal settling

for the guy that she didn't really want. That's the sad truth. And then the husband's going to yes dear, and yes,

dear, and happy wife, happy life. Even if you throw all the typical things, a big wedding ring, the wedding, the

travel, the this, the that, they're still not happy because at the end of the day, they didn't really want you.

They just settled for you. And that is evident in the vast majority of dating. It's just that it's much more short-term

than it is long-term. And I'll tell you this, the and every guy will tell you the same thing, and I

ran the numbers before, of course, in my book called The Book of Numbers, analyzing the ROI and the Pursuit of

Women. But the we even talked about me and my buddy long ago like dude I could have had two PhDs. He could have been

built three houses if we stopped chasing girls that it's not that they didn't have an interest but that we had to

conol or convince or pull the teeth of which is the vast majority of them. you know, all those girls that really didn't

want to go out with me, but whatever was giving me a shot or just didn't want to be there, weren't viscally attractive,

all that time was wasted. And that was the majority of the experience. In other words, if there was a magic way, and

there kind of is, a magic way to find a gal that just wanted to have sex or really liked you, I would have easily

saved 90% of my time on dating, which then, especially when you're a younger man, prorate your time. your time is

worth about $400 an hour because you can always work for $15 an hour. I'm going to ignore tax. Toss in the S&P 500. By

the time that you're 65 and retiring, it's going to be a $400. That's a $400 per hour opportunity cost. I would have

been way further ahead, not to mention a lot less mental stress. And I know a lot of people criticize Gen Z and all

they're weak and cowardly and you men are sore boys and all that. Okay, fine. There might be some criticism. All

right, some of that might be valid, but at the same time, I don't know, man. I think they're getting pretty smart.

Going to bars and nightclubs was a stupid, tremendous pissing away of time. Taking girls out on dates, cuz that's

what you're supposed to do, was a tremendous waste of time. And these young boys, I think they're

just getting smart. I They say, "Yeah, I heard they don't even go down to the pond anymore. Oh, they might go and cast

a couple lines like, "Yeah, this ain't worth it. I got other [ __ ] to do." Or they hurry for the Yeah, dude. That

place is a [ __ ] sewer. You don't want to go there. I think what's happening is men are

they're maybe not consciously pursuing a a Satie Hawkins strategy but but in default they are because women have

given no clear indication or interest that they are interested in the guy and therefore the guy can pretty sa pretty

safely assume yeah she's not that interested so why waste the time and I think what we need to conclude

from this is that the say what it's true the Satie Hawkins dating ing strategy is the is pretty much the only dating

strategy I think men should pursue going forward. And what what Satie Haw Satie Hawkins is this this oldtimey tradition

where girls would ask the guys out to to the Satie Hawkins dance. I think it lasted a whopping decade, maybe in the

50s or 60s, maybe in the 40s, but obviously you don't have them now because girls would have to ask the guys

out. Girls just have nowhere near the courage that their their ancestor uh grandmothers and mothers did back in in

times past. But that doesn't mean that there aren't some handkerchiefs dropping, girls

indicating interest to the guys, etc. Now, here's the whole thing. But Cappy, their indication, they don't clearly

drop a handkerchief. Well, that's a them problem, right? If you can't differentiate between the girl that's

interested in you and the one that doesn't want to have anything to do with you, that's a them problem, right? You

can't just go in there and I mean, you can and you'll have success. It's just going to become a sales game. you're

going to get shot down the majority of the time. And that's really up to you girls if you want to. But I'll I'll tell

you this guys, even today, I got to imagine perhaps in a very subtle Gen Z like way, girls might be giving you a

hint. Maybe you got to tune your radio to get into that frequency to see what it is. Um I know a lot of the the joke

running around, well, I looked at him. That's not enough. That's not enough. I I would say as a whole ladies, well, I

looked at him and he didn't come over and talk to me. Like, well, in the past when you looked at someone and they came

over and talked to you and your friends did the same, did you communally as a group of girls say yes to dates? Right?

Whole reason dating apps are failing is because women refuse to date that. I'm sorry. It's what it is.

You know, there has to be some success for the guys to get back into casino and spin the wheel and play another hand of

blackjack. Um, but it from the guy's perspective and I'm not I'm not saying that going

out and asking girls randomly, you know, because you never know. It's true. There's been guys I asked out that all a

sudden they you know, you would have thought this is this is a shot in the dark. This is unlikely and also sure

enough they did like just they're nervous or shy or whatever. So there's I'm not saying don't you see the cute

girl? Sure, ask her out. It's not going to cost you anything. But if you got to do some judgment and like, "Yeah, you

don't got the time. Uh, you don't have the where?" Oh my god. Imagine that, ladies. Guys don't

like getting shot down, right? Sales is a It doesn't matter if you're asking a girl out or trying to

sell vacuum cleaners. Acme vacuum company of Walaw Wala, Washington. It gets tiring being a door-to-d dooror

salesman, right? There's other things you'd rather do. But I'll tell you this, whether it's at

the initial dating, you know, asking a girl out or it's marriage or, you know, you're you're in a relationship or

something, it is the only women you should be accepting are the ones that viscerally want to go out with

you. The ones are like, "Yeah, let's go." The ones you don't have to tell to dress up in lingerie. The ones that I'll

I'll tell you, I'll never forget. Yeah, I mean it happened several different times, but

I'll never forget uh initially dating the GF that I have now. I walked in and she wasn't paying she was paying

attention because like we all hung out in the same group and it it was it was not it was not a secret what I liked. I

was I want a woman in lingerie serving me cocktails and and whatever just basic basic you know a lot of people would

find that degrade. No, that's basic 101 [ __ ] That's like your average guy's fantasy. Yeah. hot girl serving me

drinks, lingerie, sex, whatever. She opens up the door. She's in the French maid outfit. She's got dinner already.

Gee, and surprise, we're together. Oh my god. You know, you show up at the the dating

spot and the girl texts like, "Oh, I'm going to be late. I'm going to be 15 minutes late." And then like half an

hour goes by. Dude, [ __ ] that. It's over. You send the girl the text, right? and

she doesn't text you back within like I don't know it depends on the day but at least that day it's over you girls

playing your mind game oh he texted me too but [ __ ] no no no

I'll go back to it again it's no different than any kind of racket game bad mitten pingpong tennis you hit the

ball to them and look if they ain't hitting it over right could I should be this way and the

only successful relationships are the ones that work like If you hit it over and the girl doesn't

immediately hit it back when it's in the air like playing a game, you're not playing tennis,

the vast majority of like 48% of women will just not hit the ball back cuz they were never that interested. And then

another 48% will let the ball hit their sit there, you know, the shuttle clock lands or the ping pong ball lands, the

tennis ball lands, she'll go do whatever text on her some and then pick up the ball and hit it over and then go back to

texting. So, you're like hitting it over and then she's [ __ ] around for like three minutes and then she hits it back

and then you hit it back immediately and and then she [ __ ] around for another three minutes. Maybe hits, you know, uh

half-heartedly uh unenthusiastically hits it back. You're not playing tennis.

You're not the the absurdity. It's very shallow. You texted me back too. So, [ __ ] you. Do you want to play tennis or

not? And then every once in a while, you're going to find a gal. I'd love playing tennis with you. Oh, okay. Cool.

want to play another game. And it it's rare. It's so rare because and now we go into the book of numbers

analyzing the ROI and pursuit of women. The vast majority of women are just not that interested in the vast majority of

men. There are precious I'd have to say I've dated hundreds.

How many gals were ready to go? We are talking single digit. I don't think there was more than 10.

One, two, three, four. Oh, five. Yeah, she she she six.

Ah, my good friend, the friends with Bennett. Although, I think she just was using me, which I'm okay with. Maybe she

wasn't like, "Oh my god, let's go." She's like, "Hey, I'm bored." She gets a special place in heaven for

her. Oh, she's a wonderful Oh, what an angel. What a sweet What a wonderful woman.

I I I I'm sure if I sat down and figured it out, I might get up to 10, but it wouldn't surprise me if I didn't even

reach 10. We are talking a We are talking a very singledigit percent of the girls that that show up on dates,

not the ones you ask out, the ones that show up on dates that want to be there with you.

And for your own sake of sanity and efficiency and time and economic, we are talking millions of dollars of lost

investment opportunity for you. Only go out with the girls that obviously want to go out with you.

Don't become like I got to imagine 80% of marriages in America today where the girls just like like she gets fat

because she really doesn't like you that much. She doesn't, you know, dress up. She doesn't do the thing

that that and then you're pulling teeth. If you're you're negotiating for sex. Oh, the it's over. [ __ ] divorce her

already. And for young boys out there, I think you're going to save a tre way more pain

and agony than you realize. I could close this out. We don't need this anymore. You're going to save a ton of

pain and agony. not only avoiding going out with girls that are just not into you or worse, marrying women that are

just not into you, you're going to save so much time, so much agony uh than those who like, "Oh my go."

Yo, just like your butt, hey, you want to go hiking? Yeah, let's go hike. You know, you get your butt. You all all

guys are like dogs. Hey, you want to go outside and play? Yeah, let's go outside and play and run around and chase cats.

Let's go. Right. You want them on board like that and it's 8 and 300.

Right. What is 8 and 300 divide by three? 1 point some percent. It's minimal. Very minimal. 2%.

2.5. It's low. Very low. Um I and and you're going to say, "But Cappy, that's a very few women.

There's a good chance I'll never meet someone." You're right. You're right. And here's here's the drawback. You all

have to face the dark abyss, right? You all have to face the dark abyss because it's real. It's a very likely

statistical probability. Yeah. You're going to have to accept that the a very I'd almost say the plurality outcome is

that you're not going to find anyone. Look, the vast majority of women are not that interested in guys. They're they

would the vast majority of women are only going to be happy in their minds with the top we're going to say 10%

looks more like 8% of men. That means 92%. This is why I wrote another book called The Man You Life

Without the Opposite Sex. Cuz [ __ ] the [ __ ] investment banks are even rise of the she comedy where they estimate

45% of women will not be married by within marrying age range or by 2030. I mean, the I'm not being pessimistic.

I'm not the bearer of bad. I'm not trying to be edgy. I'm just reporting datas and facts, you know, as far as

forecasts and estimates can go. Um, it's not you. The vast majority of women are just not that interested in

men and they're certainly not enthusiastic about they're only enthusiastic about, you know, a top 8%.

Every great once in a while the gal is just going to like your personality. I've seen that the girl is just madly in

love, tickled by this guy and you look at the guy like you're kind of average though, but that the chemistry just

works. She just loves that guy. But that is so rare. And on top of it, she's the one who's going to let you know. But

yes, and I get used to this fact, okay? You don't have you could you could try and believe me or not, you're going to

be happier just being on your own than you are pulling teeth with your wife to have sex.

It is that's a that's it is a better life to be by yourself and lonely quote unquote than having someone there who is

not all that into you. And that's the point where you can replace that those type of relationships. And I'm I'm sorry

to say it's the majority of them with a renting by the hour, let's just say, cuz most of your interest is is sex.

Although if you talk to ladies of the evening, I think it's it's like I want to say a majority of them. I could be

wrong. If there's a lady of the evening, let me know. I actually know a lady of the evening, a professional. And yeah,

the these guys just want to talk. They want to be heard. They want that uh emotional aspect of the relationship,

which by the way, that's not her job, gentlemen. Although some the the I watched a documentary.

It was a gal who was a pro, retired pro, and she made millions. And you know why? Because she listened to the guy. It

wasn't about the sex. She realized she the guy just wanted a gal to like him and listen to him a little bit. And

those guys would and she wasn't like this drop deadad gorgeous woman. She was attractive, don't get me wrong, but she

was like a 7.5 and eight. She wasn't this drop deadad gorgeous model. She talked to the guys. She gave him

synthetic caring. Or perhaps she actually when she was talking, she's like, "Actually, I I really tried to

appreciate the man there and hear them out." And that connection made it that they just kept coming back

to her and pay her a lot of money and supply and demand. A lot of guys wanted her. She said, "I got to raise my

prices." All of a sudden, now she's a millionaire. Now she's retired. Uh, you can replace if if you find a gal

like that, a pro like that, you can replace your wife that just isn't that into you. The wife you're negotiating.

Think about that. Negotiating, convincing, cajoling. That's that's a life of hell. That

person doesn't want to be with you. Maybe she likes the house you provide. Maybe she likes having somebody around.

you know, like you're her pet, but she doesn't want to like viscerally and and carnally want to be with you. And so, I

think letting women indicate interest is the main the main one that if you don't have time, which a lot of you don't, and

you're not sure, dude, is that girl shown up at your house in lingerie with food? Does she do the raincoat thing? If

she doesn't, well, and ladies, if you want it, I Lord knows what works works in the the minds of the of the American

women. But we don't care. It's not our job. You'll let us know and it's we we'll never know. It's up to you if you

want to. And and I know I know actually treating you like equals say we'll start asking out guys is just a joke. That's

hilarious. That's funny. Hey, you hear about the gal that asked the guy out?

It's When does he get his Netflix special? Can you girls if you really like a guy

have I if I was dumb, okay, I was young, but when I work security, okay, there's

there's number. No, she didn't want to have sex. She just wanted to be boyfriend, girlfriend. There there was a

gal that kept showing when I worked security back at college, a gal kept showing up and talking to me. I thought

she was just being friend. Turned out she had a crush on me. Some girls have bad vision early on in their lives and

they can't see what they're asking out. Um, I didn't pick up on it, but yeah, that

that nowadays I'd be like, "Oh, maybe I should ask that girl out. I think she likes me."

What I'll tell you another thing here, girls. This is this happened a lot. Um, and this is probably causing more

destruction between the sexes than women think or even aware of. It was very common. You meet a gal, things were on

fire, and then she just ghost, right? Dude, I remember making out with this gal.

We were closing down the salsa club. I'm making out with her on the dance floor, and she lived in St. Paul. I lived over

in the WB. I had to go north. She She was going straight east. Yeah. East. And she was like, "You want to come back to

my place?" I'm like, "Dude, it is 3:00 a.m. I have got to go home and get some sleep." I say, "Let's let's pick up

where we left off. We we'll go out some other time, but I I got to get to bed." And I'm thinking like, "This is a

shoein." Nope. Never heard from her again. The number of times you want to talk about something where

you know, it's almost like that's bait. There were a lot of times the girl acted real interested, very clear. And either

because they were sadistic or they were drunk or they had second thoughts or a better offer came along,

it was a bait and switch where it's like, "Wow, this girl is really interested." Where I remember even in my

20s a little bit, um 30s just kind of stopped caring. you'd be like, "Oh, this girl's Well, wait.

Is this just going to be a sucker punch? What is is this the bait and switch?" And so, you know, by the time I'd say

late 20, I was definitely I achieved captain status. I wasn't a private anymore. I'd be like, "Yeah, okay. I

mean, we can meet. Sure." Right? Whatever. Even if the girl was flirtatious and acting interested, the

number of times that it's like, "Whoa, wait a minute." So, they act interested, but then they don't show up. And that I

don't know if you girls are still doing that, but you should probably stop that because you may not think, "Well, this

guy, I'm going to torture him and get my kicks cuz you're [ __ ] evil." You don't realize you're ruining it for

another woman or two or three where that guy might actually make those women happy. And the guy of your dreams is

probably having another girl do that to him that you're doing to a different guy. So that in that chance moment, you

might have met the guy of your dreams and you gave him flirty flirt indicators of interest. He's like, "Whoa, you know,

I she's she's really flirting with me and being very kind, but I remember the last time and that girl just ended up

like standing me up or lying, whatever. I'm I'm going to be reluctant to go over there and talk to her."

Is is it is it that hard to understand that bees need flowers like the birds and the bees but you know flowers

colorful vibrant attracts the bees pollen or or do you want to be like an aac

anti-aircraft gun on some kind of German installation and why aren't the planes flying around us?

Why aren't the planes landing at our at our airport? I it's it's I I would like to achieve

this. I would like to get you younger men, but I guess guys in general, to the point you realize exactly what the

reality of the situation is, and you accept it. You You may not like to accept it, but you accept it. And that

allows us to move on and employ dating strategies and tactics that actually will work.

um so that you're not confused at minimum we could get rid of the confusion and then you're not

sacrificing any kind you're not losing anything you weren't going to be successful anyway so again a lot of

people say oh you're just doomer pill I'm like no where did I say don't ask out girls I'm just saying get your

expectations in line with reality and understand that as with anything any kind of relationship if that person

doesn't want to be there then the relationship isn't going to work out whether it's an employer

Hey, you guys want to go hunting? And said, nah, I don't like hunting. They're not there. Hey, do you want to spend

time with me? And the girls like the answer is no. So, move on. Don't think there's hope. Don't think, oh, if I wear

this type of shoe or that type. No, it's the Satie Hawkins dating strategy. You'll let me know

here. Flirty, flirt, cool, clever thing, I say. And then she's like giggling and she hits you. If if you get hit in the

chest backhand, especially, oh, you're you're a dork. You know, you're in. You're in. Maybe.

But if they're s again, if they're just sitting on their phone, they let the balls and they pick it up and hit it

back over. Go right. She doesn't want to play tennis. So, there you go. Link below is uh what

the [ __ ] is linked below? The book of numbers analyzing the RAI and the pursuit of women not linked below is the

man you life without the opposite sex. Ladies effectively you've made it very clear

you want nothing to do with men generally. Uh so that means you also won't have the opposite sex in your

life. A lot of people are not going to have the opposite sex in their life. Right? I'm not being doomer when I'm

saying you you half you ain't getting married. Right? Don't don't tell me I'm oh you just

skewing it. No. So far, the data that's come out that I didn't put together is starting to corroborate what we see in

the real world. I'm just saying, "Oh, well, then maybe we should do this." Ladies, it's for you, too. There's a

there's a men's menu and a women's menu because men and women are different cuz what will make women happy in life is

not going to make men happy and vice versa. So, um I mean, you can read through the

other menu, but I don't I don't recommend ordering from it. But take a look at that. The menu, life without the

opposite sex. Yeah, guys, have it. And I think Gen Z's got it. Maybe perhaps unconsciously or unintentionally,

perhaps out of fear or whatever, but you guys are you're waiting for the girl to make make a very you're not asking them

out. You're not waiting for them to ask you out, but you are waiting for them to show some kind of interest, which is

good. And you're saving yourself a lot of time. You're not drinking as much. You're not going to the nightclubs.

You're not wasting your time. You're spending more time with your buddies, perhaps working and focusing on the gym

or education and career. Dude, you're going to come out way ahead on all of us old-timers. Uh, it's good to And then

ladies, anytime you'd like to play tennis, let those guys know. Let's go to the super chat. Damn, 21

super chats. What's going on? Bo Regard, fetch me my fainting cow. Hey, Board, where is that from? That's uh Henry

Fonda. What movie is that from? I got whistled today using your pickup line. You got whistled today using my pickup

line. Oh, okay. Here we go. B regard cashier want to beg me not today she all know me

nah on my way out maybe when I'm coming back her lowh high that's a good sign wannabe not today oh

no me now on my way out maybe when I'm coming back well you didn't ask her out come on that's a setup like this is the

bag you could that's material to work with no maybe I maybe when I come back to ask

you out I'll get a bag you know and then just look at her response and let her sit a little bit you don't go back but

hey you want to go out I'll have a bag now let's go to the bag museum exhibit at

the museum there's a an art exhibit of bags that that that's she's she seems fun

there you go that you'll figure it out you'll figure it out Chad Twizzler stroke five bucks had 100 matches here

thank had a 100 matches on Tinder and only four dates occurred. The stats don't

lie. Uh, speaking of fishing, Cappy, caught tons of salmon. I'll be smoking some soon. Oh, good. Uh, where were you?

Like up in Montana or Idaho? Where were you again? Not looking for a super chat.

Alex Bogey, five bucks. Only time in my life a girl asked me out was a Russian tourist chick when I was bathing at an

Egyptian resort. I was reading she had a bottle of Jack. Boy, I

those away games are fun. They're a lot more fun. I had a several Russian G, but the one I had an

experience with uh more or less asked me out, made it very clear she liked me. And

then I find out later it was a trap where after you have the the spanky spank uh then they uh say, "Oh, no. I

didn't want that. So, you're going to give me citizenship or I'm going to go and report you to the police." But

because the no spanky spank occurred when she said no, because Kappy, believe it or not, actually respects women.

Uh there was no evidence that spanky bank occurred because it didn't occur. And then she couldn't follow and then

she just went away. That kind of [ __ ] right? [ __ ] hell. That one I wasted a ton of

time and money on. Not a ton of money, but like, oh, this girl really likes me at and and then when uh then all of a

sudden she was out with her friends and partying. She did not age well.

Ken Rose, he says, "Hi, for two bucks." Hello, Ken. Re 10 bucks. as the amount is basically a diminishing rate of

return for each rejection. Another well know it's the same rate. It's the same pain or cost or time. Same amount of

time. It's just you are less likely after three failures to ask a fourth and even more less likely after a fifth.

Another factor we miss is the amount of time alone between dates. Sometimes it's years now. Used to be weeks or months

before. I mean that's it's always been a numbers game. I don't want to say give up. Uh if anything, you should learn to

not let the rejection lessen your propensity to ask a girl out again. It's just a rejection. It doesn't mean

anything. And and I think we all in the olden days, you think, "What's wrong with me? I got to improve." No.

Women don't know [ __ ] about a quality man. They don't know. I'll tell you the story again. you know, senior analyst,

banker, balor, dance and shark property owner. I don't even think I was Yeah, I think I was mid20s pretty successful.

Um, I got rejected by 31 girls to dance. Dude, ballroom dancers try like they don't know what they want. They don't.

You can't take it personally. You cannot take a woman's rejection of you personally or some kind of accurate

assessment of your value, right? You need to be the best you are at what you do. Whether it's your career and you're

in shape and you got your finances together and if you're a good man, you're a good man. Girls, girls can't

smell a good man to save their lives. That's why they're always filing for divorce all the time.

Um, yeah. Don't. In other words, women are really poor judges of quality and character of men they want to marry and

date that are good men. So them rejecting you has really no bearing on your quality and caliber.

Um, Alex Bogey five bucks only time girl. Oh, I already did that one. Re um, women aren't the best at receiving

approaches anymore either. Their social skills have either their social skills have declined as well. I guess is that

what's happening to young like when a guy asks a girl out now in public, it's so rare that she's shocked. I know Great

One talks about that a couple times and now that I think about when I've asked gals if they're single to set up Great

One, they're shocked and and not necessarily a pleasant shock, but they're kind of like scared

shocked like no. Here, this is my buddy. He's single. You're kind of his type. You interested?

No. No. I have a boyfriend. It's like lady, uh, how did you think you got here? Like, what is this apprehension?

Are men that scary? Are we really that scary? Good thing you're you're inviting a

bunch more men into the country. Chad Twizzler stroke two bucks, but Dennis Prager just says, "Find a church

girl." Yeah. And poor Dennis, I guess he's paralyzed from like the back down. He fell and injured himself. So, the

best to Dennis Prager. Um, and Dennis is from an older time. Ham boom. Cheng generous dollars. Don't

talk to us at work the gym in public or we'll put you on blast. Hey, why aren't the men moving on and finding other

things to do? Well, in Hamone, that's another thing. The United Front

um of what women are saying on the internet, which admittedly is not accurate and 100% representative of what

women think in the real world, but what men see on the internet is very detering.

uh and preventative of men asking girls out. Um I try to give women a fair shake. No, come on. They're doing that

for clicks. That's do not approach. Do not approach. Like that's just a [ __ ] clickbait [ __ ] Okay. Um or power

tripping. But if that's all guys see and you see the exchanges going online.

Yeah. Again, show me where women say something righteous and hopeful for a change.

Show me that. You don't see it. And that hugely disincentivizes men from asking women out online or in person.

Uh men, why are the men moving on and finding other things to do? It's a slow Poke Rodriguez moment for the women. I I

go to the gym very regularly. I have ne and to show you what you see on the internet is not what is representative

of the real world though it might rhyme. I've never seen girls doing their butt photos or setting up a video entrapment

or anything like that. I had one gal like I was doing military press and she bent over like four feet in front of my

face on a machine. how yeah, the machine was there and she could do that, but I'd be like, I kind of make sure I don't put

my junk in front of other people's face. Like, oh, he's sitting at maybe I shouldn't do my whatever my curls and

with my junk in his face. You know, I'm I have junk awareness, junk placement awareness.

But that was a a one-time thing, and I I don't see these girls doing that. But if that's all you see, and here's the other

thing, right? Women in public don't necessarily let you know what's what either. So then when you see this

happening on the internet, like, well, this is the only information we're getting. And it's it's not looking

pretty good. It's very demoral. It's no different than propaganda. If you read in the

newspaper, all women hate men, and but you don't see that in the real world. Well, on the newspaper, it says, you

know, maybe I'm a little bit more reluctant. Hamone, two bucks. Did you ever find a

bench you like? No, I didn't. Dude, of all the things, you know, you think I'll find a bench. Like, how hard

is that? You see the I found benches owned by other companies. The Cold Stone Crearyy down in Rapid City, they got the

exact bench I want. But I go online and try to find can't find a bench. I've spent like a good hour and a half

looking for benches. I'm never getting that time back. A bench. A [ __ ] bench. You think it'd

be out there. Alex Bogey, five bucks. Indicators of interest can be misleading. St. Staring

not always means they like you. They might be scared or they might be looking behind you. If I had to estimate it, the

percentage of times where the girl was giving me some kind of indicator of interest and I asked them out, it was

about a 40% failure rate. So, yeah, 60% success rate, but a not small minority of times it was no. Oh my god. And like,

okay, all right. Well, stop looking at me. It Oh, I had one girl making out with me

and then I followed her around a little bit for the for the evening. She's like, "Why are you following me?" I'm like, "I

thought you wanted to like go home." And you're like, "No." I'm like, "Okay, [ __ ] it. You grab me and kiss me.

I don't have no [Laughter] you have fun.

Uh, also they will go on a date but ghost later. Yeah, a lot of times you thought it was going to go somewhere and

it didn't. Fanboy Fantasia five bucks. If you've been in the military and college, you've been taught that women

hate being asked out by unwanted men more than anything, right? And how do we know that? And then yes, you can see if

they're flirting with you. It Look, here's the other thing, guys. Their inability to indicate interest is

not your responsibility. You're going to go out there and the vast majority of girls are just not

going to indicate interest. So, you're at a thing, you're at a party or whatever, and that you it's going to be

it'll be once in a blue moon. It's going to be like um who was it with the bags and the checkout girl? Okay. She with

that there. That's pretty good. That's what you're looking for. But how often does that happen?

And yes, if you want this to happen, you need to be in your best physical shape. So, there is a response. There's

something you can do about that is be in really good physical shape and generally dress a little bit better when you go

out in public. You never know. But that's that's the best thing you can do is be physically attractive to get

more women to kind of express an interest in you. But yeah, I would not unless you're a Chip Andale guy, you're

not going to get it. It's going to be at best once once a quarter.

Like there's one gal and and you're not you're not trained to pick up on it, right? If if I went a buddy of mine and

I we were I was showing them the Black Hills went to this coffee shop over in Spyish

and me and him were walking out and we're looking for a seat and this lady or younger gal the woman a little bit

younger than me grabbed a chair and sat it down at the table and I thought, "Oh, that was awfully nice of her as a thank

you." And uh me and my buddy just sat down and had coffee driving away and something in the back of my mind was

like, "Why? What do I did?" I'm like, wait, she thought I was cute. I think she wanted me to talk to her. And it but

it it is so rare. You just think, "Oh, that's a nice thing that lady did." And I'm sorry, ladies. It's so rare.

It's just kind of like, "Oh, that's just being polite." that

what women have to do and it's going to take a long time and consistent effort on the part of most women. So as this is

not going to happen, you have to debunk the current belief that women don't like

men. That's basically you're going to have to convince men that oh yeah, women actually generally like men.

You have to you're going to have to dethrone or debunk the preconception that women are not that interested in

men and replace it with, "Yeah, women like guys. We do." Oh, okay. But I mean, now I think about it's kind

of funny. Like, oh, it was an hour later by the time like, wait a minute. It's too late now.

had had I been under the impression girls like guys and I would have been like, "Oh, hey, I think she likes me.

She's flirting with me." And and think about that. Someone who's kind enough to get you a chair, that's a good person,

you know, or at least a good first foot forward. Well, I didn't pick up on that.

Alex Patino, a truck driving Latino agent in the field, 10 generous dollars. I graduated in 03 and had Satie Hawkings

and Morp. Oh, Morp backwards for prom. Anyways, nobody asked Alex out. That tells you how popular Alex was. Anyways,

all of them got fat. God bless it. God bless you. That's right. The curse of Alex, actually. Okay,

that's not a stretch. Most people do get fat when they get older, so it it happens. And we're in America, so yeah,

all women end up at Walmart pretty much. Yeah. I don't think we had a Satie Hawkins.

I think it was in grade school we were aware of the thing called Satie like Satie Hawkins day maybe and girls gave

you candy or something but there was no dance. It was like fourth or fifth grade or something. I don't know.

I very few women have asked me out. I guarantee you less than five women have

asked me out in my life. Uh Chad uh five bucks. Prager had to come from wealth if he can afford two

divorces. Well, okay. Prager earned his wealth. He's an exceptional mind. He's an exceptional philosopher and a public

speaker. He equates divorce to a car crash. I say skydiving and shoot opening is a better analogy. He he's religious.

Let look the only thing I disagree with him on is his views on marriage, but it's religiously based. He's a devout

Jew, right? He's got his rules. You know, my old man's the same way. Former pastor, right? This is what God says.

Like, here's what the real world rules are saying, but God says this, "All right, obey your guy in the cloud rules

and get the [ __ ] kicked out of you in the real world. You You can't They're religious, you know, and God bless them.

God bless them." Um, but that that's their problem, right?

Girls right now, whether they're aware of it or not, have the reputation of disliking

men in America. That's a disadvantage for them. That's a them problem. Religious people who are

religious to a fault to the point they ignore the real world realities of the rules life is having they have to abide

by and they don't. That's a them problem too. Alex Vic two bucks shout out for zero no

sukama. Oh, I didn't know. I just looked for [ __ ] phone. I just looked for girl

chasing guy image and Google has all guys chasing girls. They are so [ __ ] biased. I'm like there's not one image

out there of a girl chasing a guy. Then I typed in Satie Hawings and some oldtimey comic book shows up but then

it's all guys chasing girls. And then so I I went to Yandex because I'm like, "Okay, obviously, but no, no joke.

Google and Bing do not want to make it look like women are chasing men, like guy rejecting woman. Look up an image of

that. It's very rare." And then they show girl rejecting a guy. I'm like, I didn't say a girl rejecting a guy. I

said a guy rejecting a girl. Nope. You can't see that. They are. It's so Orwellian.

So, I went to Yandex and Girl Chasing Guy image and then that anime thing showed up. I'm like, "Well,

that's good enough. That That's what it should look like. If you look at the thumbnail, that's what

it should look like. The girl just likes the guy and the guy's kind of like, whoa, what happened?"

Kind of funny how that happens sometimes. Uh,

Zanzis 998 Malaysian rupees. What's myrr?

What's an RR? Myrr. Malaysian rupees to USD. What is that? Ring it. Ring. I was so close. Malaysian. I knew it was ring

it. Uh, for 30 Malaysian ringits. Over here in the east, we already dropped the

shtick about dating. Already bad cost due to value ratios. Over in Malaysia, really? Okay. Brothers even encourage

each other to spa or leg washing shops. Is that in Malaysia? They wash your legs. Pretty girls serving you all.

Smiles. One for two or one out of two. Here's another one from Zanzis. Uh carrying the

conversations. Well, if you don't like it, you can call to change. Build your confidence. You get pampered and value

to your money. That's nice. That's nice. So washing I'm again not search I'm just you guys make super chats that evoke

more questions on my part. So they wash your legs over there. It's like a like a a pedicure almost.

Tony the killer B five bucks. My wife saved up money for a side hustle and got me a used trigger. She just said she

loves me wants me to be happy. Win or no? Big win. She bought you a Trager man,

dude. Show she cares. What? What? Get out. You better hold on to this one. She likes you.

Your wife got you a smoker and you're wondering if you should keep this one. She just said she loves me and wants me

to be happy. Win or no. Big win, man. Big W. Alex again. Five bucks since you brought

up economics. It's about supply and demand at the end of the day. No scarcity of men in the West. Venezuela

is a canary in our coal mine. Yeah. Well, you girls are going to find out what you're going to when when all this

technology and infrastructure men build like, you know, sewer systems and the electrical grid. When it all goes away

and you can't do your girl boss nonprofit marketing DEI director horseshit jobs, you're going to find a

job that you're going to I'm sorry. I'm not I'm not I am not trying to slam on you girls. I'm trying to tell you maybe

ought to go pick up a trade so you don't have the trade only to rely on. If you know what I'm saying.

Ham bone two bucks bait and switch. Inconceivable. I should watch that again. But I knew

you would know then. That's why I switched again. Alaska Jack two bucks. I'm Gen Z and I

feel like we are waking up compared to the generations before us. You are. And you have the internet to thank for it.

The internet. Dude, the [ __ ] media was owned by the Democrat party for so long and they just convinced everybody

that, "Oh yeah, go be go be not the gender you are. Oh yeah, cut your junk off. Oh yeah, free [ __ ] because we we'll

figure out a way. Here's some Kinsey [ __ ] as oh and and those bastards got more and you need that. We need

immigrants. We Oh, and we should Oh yeah, we can outsource jobs, too. Those are the bad people over there. No, don't

have kids. Be a girl boss. pay taxes. It's okay to pay 40% in taxes. And you guys are we look at and I think

the big one, the big straw they tried to put on the Gen Z camel's back was big chicks are beautiful. Fat is beautiful.

I think guys, [ __ ] you. That's why that uh what's her name? Sydney Sweeney Jeans commercial is so

awesome. So perfect. Bo Regard two books. B regarders from 1973's My Name is Nobody.

The Trinity C. No. Nobody is still my name. Is that the Trinity series? Hang on. My name is Nobody.

Yeah. Terren Hill. It's got Henry Fonda. Oh, I gotta watch. Okay. Wait, does it end where they're on a

platform for a train station? I think I think and it's in Louisiana. I think I have seen that one. Yeah. Uh, winning

strategy. Catch a felon. Pretend to sell drugs. Fake catch a felony. Oh, pretend to sell

drugs. Fake being homeless and a deadbeat dad. Yes. Yes. The women sure do like the criminal element, but you

gota you got to fake it. You got to be like T. Rash who goes to church and helps with the orphans, but at at in the

daytime, his reputation is he's he's a bad guy and he he's got six pack abs. He's got a felony.

Re five bucks again. Despite our point of equality, ever notice how most advice to men is that women are lying or they

don't know what they want. Nowadays, it is. Beforehand, it was like, well, you guys just need to do better. You just

need to do better. It's the classic where the individual woke up and says, "No, we are not the ones with the

problem. They are." And it's not a problem. Women don't have a problem. Women biologically are just not that

interested in guys. That's it. That's all that's I think that's the one thing we need to take away from all this so

that you guys stop one annoying them and two, stop wasting your time and money. I And I'm sorry sisters. I am probably

one of the biggest feminists out there. Yeah. time for you girls to start being equal. If you're interested, you let us

know. And they're kind of like, "Yeah, we will." I'm like, "Oo, ouch." That's how dude, their silence should be

deafening. Okay. If if they if women like you that much, they would ask you out. And they don't.

There's your answer. Stop bothering them. Right. Ladies, you would like it if men stop bothering you. Cool.

I mean, there's no other choice. is starting to become increasing legal but certainly more likely social risks and

costs that come with that. So, all right. Okay. Let us know. We're here.

Space cowboy. Five bucks. You catch you'll catch the wind with your bare hands before you find out what's in the

hearts and mind of a woman. That's like I said, Dr. Charlie Taliban. Orion Teraban is his name. I like

Charlie Taliban better. He has one of the greatest videos out there. What do women want? What other women want? Go

watch it. It's like a There it is. Sorry. Don't have time to figure out what all of you want. So that the

individual girl I'm interested knows what she's want. Where I'm Bye bye. Gone fishing. Bye bye bye bye bye bye. I

ain't working anymore. Gone fishing. Space Cowboy five bucks again. My second grade teacher told me I was cute when I

was angry. Was she hitting on me? No. No. She probably thought you were a cute little boy cuz you probably were a cute,

you know, little seven-year-old getting angry. I think that was honest. Christian Christian

gamer 20 generous dollars after my divorce messaged thousands of women on dating apps over six years. My current

wife on plenty of fish. Managed to find a quality woman. been married now since 2017. Uh, with three kids and one on the

way. That's a cool story from the 2010s, bro. But, and I'm not I'm not slamming on

you, but it's kind of it is dated. There was that short sweet spot and you're it where online dating was working. Um,

also though, your numbers bear out. You had to message thousands of women over six years. I'm surprised it's a single

digits of thousands. They're probably more like 10,000. Um, but yeah, those numbers bear out. Uh, thousands. Yeah,

you're talking fractions of 1%. Uh, married for coming up on 10 years and three kids with another. Go. Good for

you, man. Good for you. Glad that worked out. Congratulations. I mean, which lens? Look, you could do online

dating. I'm not talking to you individually. Online dating, sure. Why the hell not? If it's cheap, just swipe