12 Proven Secrets to Make Him Obsessed with You

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those of you let's get into the 12 things that you can do some sneaky and some not so sneaky to make him

absolutely and utterly obsessed with you let's go thing number one is you cannot my friend make someone

else obsessed with you unless you're obsessed with yourself that is the whole truth however you like to swing that cat

however you like to look at that statement you first have to become in love with yourself it's not so easy

we've all had childhood issues we've all had things happen we've all not been in the ideal scenario in life we all have

doubts I have them you have them our cat has them our dog has them but we have to move through it and we have to somehow

even through affirmation or through self-belief make ourselves believe it and especially when we talk to the

person who we want obsessed with us in mind we have to voice the way we feel about ourselves I used to have this

friend right let's call her Maria when I was a kid at school Maria was at best average and I mean to say this in the

nicest way possible she was an average pretty girl when I saw her I was like oh she's my friend this is going to be

great we're going to be friends nothing to write home about nice girl but every time we would go into the bathroom or

something like that she would compliment herself in the mirror and I don't mean just like weirdly in the mirror but she

would drop things like in conversation like oh you know cuz like I'm so pretty and d d d I know that sound conceited

the way I'm saying it but when she said said it it sounded really like off the cuff and natural I remember this one

time we went to the bathroom at school and she was talking about an event that happened and then she looked at herself

in the mirror and she said oh my God like my hair looks so good today I'm so glad I washed it with that shampoo or

something so it wasn't in this crazy conceited way but it was in this knowledge that she is a good-looking

human being and lo and behold over time I was like my friend Maria is so goodlook Maria is the prettiest girl in

the world world I was over here believing the hype so if you want someone to become obsessed with you you

first have to give that energy to yourself you need to do affirmations in the mirror you need to start falling in

love with your features the thing that helps me fall in love with my features is when I understand that they are

related and connected to my ancestry like literally the features that we have are the faces of the ancestors that we

had the ancestors that live through snow and mammoths attacking them in order to bring you into this world now they live

through trials and tribulations and wars and Frostbite and all kinds of famines in order to bring you into this world

right now so when you look at yourself if you cannot find the love for yourself that is just like oh yeah I'm so cute

I'm so good-looking then find the appreciation of the lineage that people before you

had have some pride in the way you are have some pep in your step have some I don't know oomph and gumption behind

you you need to manifest self-belief and self-love to yourself before you can make him obsessed with you because this

is the harsh truth nobody wants to be obsessed with somebody or in love with somebody or wanting somebody that isn't

universally wanted it's kind of a harsh truth because we want what others want we want what is universally good we want

what is sought after that's how branding works that's how everything works so unless you believe in the product that

you're selling which is you why should he become obsessed with it why should he be crazy about it you're that car

salesman at the moment who's not even sure that the car that they're selling is that great he's not even sure so

first you've got to be good with you you got to fall in love with you number two the masculine wants to fall in love with

the feminine because the feminine is youthful light and playful when I see youthful I don't mean genetic

genealogical age I mean youthful Spirit if you want to make a feminine fall in love with a masculine now we

both have feminine masculine energies in us all but I believe if you watching this or listening to this you are a

woman who wants a man to fall in love with her or be crazy about her or be obsessed with her so let's dance with

that theme in mind when we are a woman we want a man or the masculine to come across as reliable and

steadfast we want to be protected by them even when you're falling in love with a bad boy the reason you're falling

in love with a bad boy is because there is some danger and element to him that yes reminds you of your crooked past and

of your father who maybe didn't like you so much but also in that danger is the capacity for him to protect you and be a

solid reliable masculine energy in the this world that's why we sometimes gravitate towards that over somebody

else however the opposite is also true as annoying as it is if you are going to meet him and come to him with your

problems and you're whining and you're complaining now I'm not talking about husband and wife

relationship but even then you need to deploy some lightness and joy into the relationship I am talking about when you

meet and you want him to become obsessed with you like instantly what I want you to deploy is some youthful playful

feminine energy because as much as you want him to be reliable and masculine you those icks that people talk about

those icks like the biggest ick is when he is at a dining hall and he's got a tray and he can't find a seat and he's

walking around I heard some podcast talking about how that's the biggest ick and it's an ick for women as funny and

humorous as that is and it's probably you know exaggerated but that's an Nick because we don't like a man who's not

sure and men get obsessed with a woman woman who just radiates joy and happiness and a lack of heaviness even

if you can't be joyful and happy and if you want to be more of the Megan Fox Angelina Jolie Vampirella energy they

are also not a drain on his energy they're not sitting there complaining about their friends they're not sitting

there complaining about some situation they are light in the essence of they are not laboring him with her issues

they're not there complaining why he was late or why he did something wrong or why he looked at the other girl weirdly

all these women whether it's the dark feminine or the light feminine or Marilyn Monroe or Angelina Jolie they

have a likess and playfulness to them in terms of they are not the same but they don't labor the man with

their needs in the early stages of a relationship and if you want to reignite

your relationship no matter how long you've been together take your foot off the heaviness gas and become playful and

know that's so hard to say and so easy to say and so hard to do because we're like yeah but we've got 7.5 children and

I'm carrying the load of everything and I get it I'm a woman in this world like guys I get it I am female I have one

child and I'm 8 months pregnant that's why I can't breathe if you guys have noticed yes congratulations to me but

the breathing is real but listen that is the key I'm only giving you the keys I'm not saying that they're right but if

you're happy and the load of you is easy then that is the magic let's move on to number three

egocentric feminine women win and this is a hard one to talk about because we're trained to not be egocentric we're

trained to be a good girl we're trained to do things that is right for society and by everyone but where it goes wrong

is that we end up doing everything for society but we're actually getting drained and we become that an right in

the corner that we always talk about on this podcast and in these videos we become angry resentful and then we're

not useful to anybody and in order to make somebody obsessed with you you've got to first show up for yourself

because others treat you how you treat yourself it's a universal law and it's a relationship law that people mirror to

you how you treat yourself so when you meet a guy make sure you communicate to him that

you're not the good girl not by saying I'm not the good girl but be by being like yeah I've got a facial on Thursday

and I'm going you know to do this hike on Friday and I'm doing this and that for me and he'll be like he might make a

joke man like to do that like oh yeah princess everything for you and you just look at him and be like

yeah yeah for me because you know who men love to

invest in women worth investing in and you know who the first person who's got to invest in the woman that is worth

investing in is herself so that is very important I'm not saying be narcissistic but even if

you're worried about that even if you're worried about being narcissistic that means you're not a narcissist

narcissists ironically need the approval of other people and they need the worship of other people what I'm telling

you is healthy self-service what makes you feel good what makes you feel excited what makes

you just feel and live like the best version of yourself that is what you need to be doing because he's going to

see how you treat yourself and he's going to come correctly to you as well number four my favorite is

self-confidence a quiet knowledge a self-confidence which I believe can only be

built not by being rude and cutting people off and being like yeah I'm the best look at me but I believe true

confidence comes from showing up for yourself if you show up for yourself you will start to have confidence in you

because what does it mean when you say I've Got Confidence in my friend I'm confident my friend will do this or I'm

confident about our friendship it means that you know that person's going to show up for you how many times have you

turned up for your friend but you've got a date with you let's say in the calendar to go to the

gym but you just cross it off or say you want to start podcast but you just cross it off you want to do all these things

but you just put them on the back burner and cross it off the price you're paying that you don't realize you're paying is

that you're becoming less confident in your own word to yourself you are becoming less vital and

less steadfast to you if you're not showing up for yourself you will pay for that price in your confidence you have

to and you must show up for yourself consistently in order to have that confidence and when you first meet

someone the way you display that confidence is by being there for yourself by knowing that you know you

want to drink the celery juice in the morning and you're going to do that and if he invites you to stay over you're

not going to break your boundaries and you're not going to just run into his arms and I don't know sleep with him on

the first night because you are your own priority and you are your own best friend so confidence is really important

number five if you watch movies and you see all the famous women that men find attractive I don't care what polarity

they are like I said before from Mar Monroe to Angelina to whoever even if he likes to watch I

don't know wrestling or whatever kind of woman he likes the thing they have in common is feminine movement men are very

attracted to the thing that is opposite to masculinity and that is femininity which often comes from the way a woman

moves she's always moving her hair not annoyingly but you know what I mean she is arching an eyebrow even think about

Nigella Lawson those of you who are British will know her or somebody who's like really Vivace and motherly and

homely not necessarily sexual or young or anything all that sexy women have in common even as they age is they've got

this vivacious way of moving like their body flows they're like a cat they're here they're everywhere that's why

they're often betrayed in like a dress that can move or something interesting or if they're the vamp type they're

betrayed in the leather pants and Le the leather pants kind of emphasize her and they make movements and they make noise

when she moves like everything feminine no matter which spectrum of women the man might like is not about a woman

sitting on her laptop hunched over with her neck forward typing away with her fingers and static everywhere else it's

not about her standing by the bar statically that's very masculine energy if you imagine a woman just standing

statically by a bar no the feminine energy she's moving she moved her hair she moved that glass she ran her fingers

along that bar it's like that very annoying Rolls-Royce ad if you guys have seen it Rolls-Royce and she runs her

fingers along the parts of the car and everyone's making memes of it but the thing about why that thing is made is

because men are genuinely attracted to feminine movement so if you want to make him obsessed with you make sure you're

not sitting there like a lump of coal make sure you've got some feminine movement to you make sure that you have

some viciousness to you make sure that you've got some kind of you know flow to you because is very attractive number

six the art of flirting I mentioned this in both of my feminine energy master class and my polarity masterclass on

margarit narco.com so check those out if you haven't but if you've lost the art of the flirt then you're missing out

it's about seeing a guy and making eye contact for just a little bit too long to show him you're interested because

ladies let's face it we have to choose them they can't choose us because then we'll be choosing disasters we have to

choose the man so when you meet him you have to know the art of the flirt one of those things is don't always be

consistent and I know people will say oh but that's playing games that's playing games you just got to be yourself no I'm

sorry there's an art to everything and the Art of flirting is if on Monday you were on the phone all day together

talking about your dog and you know the re the kibble that you've put him on and how he poops really well pull back on

Tuesday and Wednesday and I don't mean ghost him but don't report every single bowel movement your dog has and I know

that sounds silly and ridiculous but that is the truth and I talk about on my Tik Tok all the time you got to have es

and flows you've got to know the art of flirting you can't you have to have a way to not make him over full how I feel

right now because I'm So Pregnant I literally feel like I've eaten three Christmas dinners everyone's Christmas

dinners and I can't breathe that is what pregnancy feels like in the in the third trimester everyone who's been there

knows and everyone who um is going to have kids in the future enjoy guys enjoy but you need to find a way to make him

not over stuffed like me and not hungry because that makes people angry but just full enough and a little bit unsatisfied

that is the art of flirting so always make sure you're leaving and don't always end everything in text messages

make sure you've got something to say when you see him and if you're on the phone don't be the one who's just

sitting there make sure that you hang up with something more to say that is the art of flirting number seven is let him

see you from afar organize things where you will be with him in your element with other people around so if you're in

a restaurant go to the bar and order a drink so he can see you from afar as simple as that because he'll be like wow

look at her in her wholeness when someone's always zoomed in in your face like in a camera you can't see them for

the whole thing that they exemplify and people are so exciting and people often say that they find their Partners

most attractive when they're kind of zoomed out in a zoomed out lens and furthermore they find them even more

attractive when they're doing the thing that they're talented at so say you're really good at playing piano or say

you're really good at holding conferences invite him to that conference if you're like a party girl

and he's a party guy invite him to the party so he sees you in your element if you're an artist and you paint invite

him to that even if he is not the type to like what you do let's say You're really I don't know incredible

Baker and he's just I don't know keto and he doesn't eat cake still invite him where everyone else is appreciating you

because when that person sees you through the lens of other people and in your flow and in your talent that will

make him go crazy for you number eight this is a tricky one for the ladies and trust me

works if you want a guy to be obsessed with you we often think that we've got to put our best foot forward say what

we're really good at say that we're this type of person we're that type of person look at me blah blah blah the way to

make a guy obsessed with you is to ask him for his help and I don't mean nag him tell him can you hang my shelf or

else I mean be like oh my God I'm stuck I need your help you're so strong you know all those hero things yeah that or

ask him for his advice like if you know that he's the best chef around and he makes like the best cheese sandwich text

him randomly and be like which cheese is it I like you are the only person that would know

that people sorry men love to feel useful and love to feel needed and the thing that women often get wrong is they

go oh he he doesn't want to be needed cuz he's never doing anything for me he no needed not as in like nagged and made

to do stuff but needed as in like C cated for the thing that he is amazing at and create scenarios where you're

like I need your help I can't do this without you because it's not about how you talk to the person it's not

necessarily about how you are with the person it's how you make them feel and let me tell you right now this is the

biggest secret of all secrets if you can make him feel how he wants to appear in this world you will become

Irreplaceable if he wants to feel like a big superhero Batman guy and you make him feel that way you will become

Irreplaceable if he wants to feel like a Cozy Bear on the bear on the sofa and you make him feel that way you will

become Irreplaceable you need to tap into how he wants to feel and make him feel that way but the safe bet is he

probably wants to feel like a superhero and the only one who can fix the problem because that's how boys are raised so

tap into that and you he will be obsessed with you number nine exemplify real excitement and joy when he does

something for you we as human beings rarely experience appreciation even as women people are

scared to give it oh my God it will spoil him he's going to go off me he's going to think he's too good for me no

he's not he's only going to think that if you're giving him false praise if you're giving him genuine appreciation

like genuine like the way you did that really shifted something for me or the way you're looking right now in that

that's incredible and I would be careful with complimenting men's looks and things

that are superficial things that he didn't work on and focus on the things that he worked on or somehow changed

like telling him oh my God you're so tall okay fantastic he's just going to like himself more like you said but

telling him wow you got into that program that that you know sports program and you know you worked so hard

and I saw that that takes real grit that's that's not like everybody that that would make David Goggins proud like

real things that he worked on that are irreplaceable really show him appreciation and show him some damn

excitement when he buys you flowers even if they're wrong excitement takes out the trash excitement brings that thing

he said he would excitement appreciate him it will make him do more of it as opposed to less so

it's it's not what you fear he's not going to get too like I love myself only if you just praise him on vacuous things

number 10 is if you find a man who is passive like he is inactive he doesn't plan anything he doesn't do anything

which is what I hear from you guys a lot you need to understand whether he is a man and is feminine and you want to be

a woman in her masculine which is like 20% of the time to 15% that does happen and if that makes you feel comfortable

like do you just thrive on planning everything do you just love it do you love to lead and if you do and he's

passive then Bobs your uncle that's going to work out for you God bless you see you at the chapel you're going to

get married but if it rubs you the wrong type of way and you're like why is he not doing something why is he not

stepping up why is he not this and that then you're probably a woman who wants to be in her feminine and he's passive

and the way women normally go about it is they become more assertive more aggressive more planning and then they

tell them why don't you plan why don't you do this why don't you do that no if you want a passive man to become more

assertive you need to become more passive than him oh what babe what should we do today I don't know whatever

you want to do I'm I'm just going to wait for you I'm going to wait for you to decide I don't care how much game

playing it is because I'm not telling you the PC thing to do I'm telling you the right thing to do for you to win

okay if you want to see how much masculine energy is in that man and if he can plan or if he can eventually do

something the formula is to be less assertive than him until he works it out until he pushes through it until he sees

how amazing it is to be masculine and also when he does finally do it excitement and appreciation remember

rule number number n number 11 be mysterious it kind of goes back to rule number three but rule number 11 is

be mysterious don't always give away everything about your day leave a lot of things to later if you're on the phone

be like I can't wait to tell you when I see you a lot of people can't take the the texting into real life dating so

that's the way to do it you need to be like when I see you I'm going to tell you it's so exciting make yourself very

exciting to be with by being m mysterious leave some mystery like bodily functions peeing in front of him

pooping in front of him we're not going to do that and a lot of people like yeah but it's natural me and it makes me feel

cozy I don't know what kind of person you need to be to feel cozy just by pooping in front of somebody there are

so many other ways to connect with a human being and I don't know that's a brother sister relationship to me number

12 if you first met a man don't make the mistake in thinking that he's already looking for a whole person and a wife

men not looking for a wife on the first date or when they met someone even if they're saying I'm looking for a

long-term thing I'm looking for a wife that's not the lens that they're looking through so all the advice I give you

about how you present yourself your confidence the mystery if it rubs you the wrong way and if you're thinking oh

my gosh I just want to be myself I want to be authentic there's time to be the wife but in the beginning you've got to

First attract him and men are attracted visually they're attracted through that kind of feminine charm um

they're attracted through through all those things so if you want him to straight away listen to

your problems listen to your issues bond with you if you want to tell them about how badly your ex treated you and if you

want to do all those things I would definitely hold off because that's later on wife stuff that is later on wife

stuff that is connection you can have later but in the beginning I am telling you the way to make him obsessed with

you is with all the things I I said so good luck use them wisely deploy them often and remember be light and playful

because you've got so much incredible feminine energy in you thank you again for listening thank you for watching

thank you for giving me amazing reviews I show up because you show up for me and um I'll see you on the next one love you

lot jelly tots [Music] bye

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