10 Essential Life Lessons for Your 20s to Thrive and Grow

when I was in my early 20s I wish somebody would have sat me down and given me this exact advice that I'm

about to give you get your notebook out and your pen and we are going to take notes together because I want you to

have the best possible years of your life I think we can all relate to the feeling of being a little behind

especially when we're in our 20s which is this big big deal right and with reason because in our 20s it's this is

our Prime this is the time where we can prepare our future I'm going to give you 10 solid life tips that I wish I had in

my early 20s and if you're not in your early 20s maybe you're in your mid or late 20s this applies to anyone still so

if you're starting over and you're past that point do not worry hi friends it's krisia welcome back to the channel if

you're new here it's so nice to meet you if you're into glowing up from the inside out then you may want to consider

subscribing I want to start this by saying you're not alone I know how hard this is because I have been there I have

felt behind for a long long time probably up until the recent few years I have really truly felt like everyone

else had it figured out and I didn't it's never too late it's never too late to change your life it's never too late

to start something new you don't need to have it all figured out in fact nobody has it all figured out which leads me to

my first point failing fast is a mindset it's a mindset that is important for so many reason you're probably thinking why

would anyone want to fail it's humiliating it sucks you have to start over but I need you to understand that

is a good thing the faster you fail because look no matter if someone seems to have life figured

out they're going to fail at some point we all are we're going to fail at on a small level on a big level many times

throughout our lifetime here on Earth that is just inevitable I need you to understand that and the faster you can

fail the faster you get to where you need to be reframe your mindset on failure I know failure is scary but the

more that you fail the less scarier it becomes and the more you start to realize that it's actually part of the

journey it is necessary to succeed if you're someone who wants to succeed at anything you don't have to be want to be

a millionaire but if you want to succeed at something at a career if you want to succeed on a path you want to succeed at

helping someone you want to succeed in any way shape or form you will fail I need you to just be comfortable with the

thought that failure is it's necessary every single person that you meet who you may find as successful has failed

more times than you know think about something you failed at did you learn something from it most likely yes if you

failed in a relationship you learned how to look for a better one the next time or how to show up as a better person the

next time if you failed at a job you probably learned to not make that mistake again or you probably learned

how to find a better job so on and so forth the faster you fail the faster you get to learn you need to know what works

and what doesn't and it's honestly so freeing like the first few times that you fail because you're like okay that

wasn't as bad I didn't die each failure teaches you a valuable lesson that nothing else I promise you can teach you

no amount of textbooks no amount of YouTube videos that you watch could ever teach you any better than when you

actually make mistakes yourself time is the most valuable thing and the the less time you waste on thinking of what could

be or thinking about what you should start the sooner you can get to actually building experience building that

knowledge building your skills you're speeding up the process to get to your dream life failure is not your enemy it

is actually your friend second on the list that I really really wish I knew as early as possible was that it's okay to

be multifaceted it's okay to have multiple passions and multiple things that you're interested in It's actually

an advantage I really wish that somebody had given me the permission to be a multifaceted human being as someone who

felt like I was there was something wrong with me because I couldn't pick a one career like a lot of my friends in

high school did you are going to be more likely to learn new skills multiple skills at the same time you're going to

broaden your network because you're going to meet so many different types of people people across different

Industries because you are multifaceted for example when I first started dabbling into careers I thought I wanted

to be a fashion designer I still want to create my own line one day but that's what I thought I wanted to be right I

met people in fashion branched off into graphic design and I started freelancing in a in graphic design with very little

skill might I add so it is possible I met a ton of people through graphic design projects now I'm a content

creator I've met so many people through being a content creator your network will be so much more Broad and diverse

because you are trying multiple things and it just honestly makes your life that much more interesting and unique I

also believe that having multiple passions really does boost your creativity because you're adapting

yourself to thinking in unique ways that if you were just solely focused on one thing you would probably have not done

and you would probably miss a lot of opportunities by being singular focus it does have it pros and cons of course but

I would say if you're multi-passionate like use that to your advantage because you can not only meet more people but

you can think in a different way because you know I have to say Looking Back Now all the things that I've tried in my

life so far all the creative things and outlets and freelancing and stuff that I've done it's given me this really

interesting perspective on how I approach things now and I didn't realize that until recently that that's actually

an asset that is a skill because as sometimes for a content creator gig they're looking for someone who can edit

who knows how to do marketing who has who can think in a marketing way who can be a great makeup artist like you have

you have more combined skills and that gives you a unique approach to solutions that I don't think you're aware of if

you naturally have that you're already ahead number three is stop trying to fit in it's a good thing to not fit in you

know I know sometimes it can suck when you don't have like your group of friends because on TV and on shows you

constantly see girls in groups and you're like oh my gosh I want that it's the same thing with relationships you

know if you're single you're probably thinking like oh I Want Love sometimes or maybe not for the most part I know a

lot of us may feel lonely if we don't have like a group of friends but you start to think more as an individual

when you're not in a group setting what happens when and I'm not saying this to bash friend groups because you know if

that's your thing natur really it's your thing but if you don't have a friend group for example you probably have more

trust in your own opinion than someone who is used to being in a group because what happens when you are in a group is

you end up conforming to each other you kind of start to become the same person the same way of thinking the same type

of mindset and it doesn't promote individual thinking because when you voice something like an opinion for

example in a group setting you end up just kind of like playing it safe and more comfortable it's not always easy to

be your most authentic self because we conform it's just human nature we want to be accepted and we want to fit in and

that's of course something we cannot change like to some extent it's healthy stop prioritizing the need to fit in you

know like don't change who you are just to be liked by anybody when you let go of the need for approval you also free

yourself from that pressure to conform into society into groups into being accepted and it really teaches you how

to validate yourself without needing external validation and also I would say by not worrying so much about fitting in

you're going to have a much more unique experience with life too learning how to meet new people like this is all very

valuable skills think about a time where you went to an event right you bring your friend what happens most likely you

and your friend just stay in a corner and chat it up which is great but if you do that too often you also

close new doors and new opportunities to meet new people like I remember I was so intimidated to go to Brand events and

when I get invited to events they usually allow a plus one and when I would bring someone I felt like I was

keeping myself in that safe comfortable feeling which you know for my anxiety purposes probably was good but if I'm

looking to grow and develop as a person it's actually better for me to be uncomfortable sometimes and go alone

which I've now started to go to events most of the time alone and I always meet new people be the source of your own

happiness instead of relying on others to do it for you and also too it's really important to remember that you

are the average of the five people you hang out with the most so really think about where you're spending your time

and your energy the next thing I want to talk about is I wish that I knew the importance of setting boundaries I

honestly didn't even learn about setting boundaries until like 2 years ago one how to set boundaries effectively and to

why they actually were necessary because a lot of times what happens is especially when you grow up in a place

where you're familiar with your family and your friends like you don't even realize the importance of boundaries in

the most important settings and you're going to constantly feel like you are putting others first instead of yourself

which will leave you feeling drained exhausted you know not Reaching Your Potential as a human being so boundaries

are super important because it allows you to protect your energy to protect your time your peace it really protects

your mental well-being I was a people pleaser I didn't even realize it you know and I had this natural thing where

I felt like I I needed to fix people I needed to help people draining myself to be there for other people it created

this unhealthy Dynamic where I felt like I needed to show up for other people even though I wasn't even showing up for

myself and I know a lot of us can relate to this because if we don't have boundaries that's just what's going to

happen an example of setting boundaries would be a friend invites you to go somewhere and you do want to go but you

know that if you go it's going to leave you with less time to work on a project that you know is due and you're going to

be scrambling at the end of the night super stressed staying up late and while that shows yes you are a good person and

a good friend for trying to show up for other people that's where a boundary would come into place because that's

when you need to realize that by showing up is this going to be at the expense of my own good is this going to be more

harmful or better for me is this going to help support me or is it going to drain me you know you could say

something like thank you so much for inviting me can we meet up another time unfortunately I'm just not able to today

that's it you know you just communicate your needs and what is best in your best interest before someone else's and be

old chrisa would be like I feel so bad I don't want to say no so I'm just going to go and then I would go sometimes I

would go so far to be there for someone and it would just be at the expense of my own well-being and then sometimes

these people would never even show up for me another way that I like to set boundaries is by not being so easily

available having access to your energy should be a privilege and this isn't because in some egotistical way like I

my time is so precious it's more of like you know you are in control of your own time your energy and your life and if

you allow people to have access to you 24/7 you're showing to yourself that you don't respect your own time I don't even

have my notifications on for social media I'm not notified of anything when I get new likes follows comments I

personally had to set a boundary of when I can check on those things and without having to be constantly pulled to be

notified every second of it ooh this is a big one how important it is to have a lot of people call it an emergency fund

but I've reframed that thought because I thought that felt kind of negative and I was like I'm going to have a different

name for this I'm going to call this my peace of mind Fund emergency fund Peace of Mind fund whatever you want to call

it but having extra cash saved up on the side it should be non-negotiable I understand it's not easy I would have

never thought that I could have a peace of mind fund for myself 5 years ago I would have probably been like well it's

easy for you to say because I'm working 12 hours a day example example example because that was literally my mindset

before the longer we keep telling ourselves that story the longer we're going to keep ourselves broke but what I

can do I can save $5 every time I get paid and then bump it up to $20 every time I get paid then maybe when I get an

extra bonus I can even do 200 you know you have to find what works for you but we need to start thinking about our

future because no one's going to come save us if we we don't take the action today that's going to set us up for a

better tomorrow nobody will it's a harsh truth I have to be the one to tell you but do what you can to start

prioritizing your life in the future I went through pretty much most of my early 20s working long hours at the time

I had a job that was paying a little above you know minimum wage and to me I was like oh my gosh I'm living many

years working you know many jobs and I didn't say at all of course I've changed my life

now I've changed my ways but if I had done that sooner I'd be in a way different position make it something

that you don't even have to think about if you have a direct deposit paycheck automate a small payment out of your

checkings into a savings every month and don't even look at it if possible keep it in a different bank account so you

just forget that it's even there but I ran some numbers for you because I wanted to give you this example to save

$220,000 in 5 years all you need to do is save $384 per week if I handed you $20,000

today you'd probably take it and see it as a good amount of cash so if you start thinking that way small habits lead up

to Big compound results while we're talking about money this leads me to my next point which this is a lesson I also

wish I had way earlier probably even earlier than my 20s money is energy money is energy I need you to understand

that it is nothing more than energy money is an exchange of value you put in your time you get money you give your

energy then you receive energy it's truly Just Energy I would be scared to spend like I would eventually do it on

things I didn't need I realized that I didn't understand money being an energy so I felt like I should hoard it I

should keep it I should hang on to it as long as possible I should Penny pinch but by doing that you are blocking new

abundance from coming into your life when energy is Flowing money abundance all of it is Flowing So within reason I

promise you if you start thinking freely about money in a way where you know not obviously be irresponsible and spend on

things you don't need but like I've always found that when I do something useful and intentional with my money

because I know it's going to continue this feeling of flow invest in something that is going to make my content better

like by using the money with intention I found that it always comes back and it always comes back in abundance it just

constantly shows up I wish somebody would have told me that investing your money is just as important if not more

important than saving it invest in things that could help you make more money that could help you grow as a

person and it's never a waste of money okay the next lesson is it's a bit of a harsh truth and I think sometimes people

won't be ready to receive this one but it needs to be said because it was a harsh truth I didn't want to hear at

first but eventually I realized how important it was and that is everything in your life is a reflection of who you

are right now of what you represent as a person if you're attracting if you have a business and you're attracting

customers who are not valueing you and are trying to get you to give them discounts that's a reflection of you

everything in your life is a mirror to who you are right now and I know that's hard to believe sometimes because you

may think things like well what could I have possibly done to attract this negative experience this negative person

but it's all a frequency that we are admitting to the world to the universe that is attracting the same back to us

like attracts like I had to audit my life in a way where I realized okay if I don't like the relationships that I'm

having in my life what does that say about where I'm at with myself the relationship with myself once you

understand that you are way more aware of who you allow into your life what type of conversations you have because

you realize that you are going to attract exactly what you're giving out into the world that is no small thing

where your attention goes energy flows so if you focus on positive things if you're generally an optimistic person I

can almost guarantee that your life it attracts much more opportunity than someone who's pessimistic and sees the

negative in every situation it's just the universal law and that's why sometimes you will find yourself going

from relationship to relationship or friendship to friendship and you're like why do I keep attracting this situation

into my life it's because you haven't yet learned the lesson and you haven't healed through the experience your

energy is still in the same place therefore it's going to attract the same thing in different circumstances the

next thing is I wish I was way more open to change you know and I say this because I had this very clear idea of

where I wanted to be by what age what accomplishments I wanted to have achieved by this time by not being

flexible and open to change you are closing so many doors life is unexpected Ed you evolve and we are all just

vessels of a higher source so whatever happens in our life it's usually happening for a reason and the more that

you resist change and the more that you resist things because just because it wasn't part of your plan it doesn't mean

that it's not right it doesn't mean that the timing isn't right you just have to be more open and flexible to change we

don't need to create timelines and deadlines for ourselves like that things will happen when the timing is right and

we are not always in control of the situation we have to trust that there's a a bigger picture that we just can't

see so don't make up unnecessary stress for yourself the next point that I want to talk about is one that I know someone

needs to hear right now and it was also a harsh truth from myself and is it's to stop trying to help people who don't

want to be helped you know this was a hard thing for me to accept for a long long time because I felt like I needed

to be the one in my family to save my whole family it was coming from an unhealthy space where I felt

like I wanted you know I wanted to get my parents to see life in a different way because they grew up completely

different than me you know they came from another country and I wanted to be able to teach them things that I learned

and I would share books with them that I read and being like please like try meditation try this and although my

intentions were good they just were not healthy for anyone for myself for my family or for anyone on the other end

that I was really trying to fix or help and that's because at the end of the day everyone's on their unique path and no

matter how good your intentions are and no matter how right you are about something people need to experience life

on their own I can't convince someone to want different for themselves and I'm also not in the right place to do so we

are all learning in our own way and we're all living our own truths however we're supposed to and I just needed to

really realized that and that was also distracting me from my own goals and my own Purpose By thinking I needed to you

know fix someone else's life we have to allow ourselves to fully flourish and whoever wants to come along on the

journey will and if they don't they won't we are down to the last thing everyone this is the last one and this

is the number 10 lesson that I wish I learned in my life way earlier in my early 20s and this one is pretty big you

know I didn't intentionally put this in any order but this one just felt right to close it out there is no end goal

there is no one thing there is no one achievement that will give you the happy ending of Life the ultimate happiness

not even any amount of money in the world will will solve things in your life if you haven't healed yourself I

know when you're in a position where you're maybe financially struggling you're like well it'd be easier to cry

in a Rolls-Royce than it would be to cry without one and while I get that there is obviously you know money is going to

give you a lot more flexibility and options the point I'm trying to make here is that at the end of the day the

magic is actually in the process it's in the journey and you will often hear a lot of people say like for example even

big celebrities I've watched so many interviews success successful business owners they always say this thing where

you know they almost feel like they were happier before they got their achievements and I wondered why that was

right and the thing is sometimes we we are so focused on where we're trying to go on the destination that we Overlook

all the little things along the way don't overlook the Present Moment by being too focused on the future you know

being present is really the gift that's why they call it the present in the last year have been so focused on just being

so grateful in the present moment that it really does manifest bigger into your life anyways so there's no point in

being stuck in the past and regretting things and there's no point in over worrying about the future if you just

try to find the feeling of Joy today life becomes so easy hope that you can apply these and learn from my lessons

and my mistakes so that you can have an amazing 20s if you're in your 20s and if you enjoyed this video I think you'll

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