Download Subtitles for Conversation with Bashar on Emotions and Aging

hello Bashar I love you good day I'm very excited to be here as our way to interact with you and before we begin I would first like to extend my deepest appreciation for allowing us to interact with ourselves absolutely as a permission slip it is our passion and our pleasure throughout my physical life here I had the opportunity the exciting opportunity to experience deep and severe levels of negativity suffering depression and pretty much everything in that category how exciting indeed how brave and bold of you thank you I guess I know because you can use this now to your advantage remember unless you haven't heard it before what we call the rubber band analogy yes I'm aware of that therefore you understand the farther you pull the band back into darkness when you finally let go it'll give you that much more momentum to fly that much faster into the light so you were bold and strong enough to pull that band very far back that means you have a lot of potential energy built up to go flying into the light so that was bold of you I'm glad you mentioned that because it seems I'm still stretching backwards do you want to let go yes and that's why I'm here and what it is in your belief system that stops you from letting go what are you afraid will happen if you do let go and fly into the light and be the self you prefer to be hey yes I don't think I'm afraid I just think I don't I'm not able to identify a specific belief system that I have all right well one moment we use the term afraid but this is what we mean by it do you remember us talking about the motivational mechanism and how that works would you like a recap yes this you all have a motivational mechanism it works like this it works all the time immediately without fail there are no exceptions to you always choose in the direction of what you believe benefits you always without fail what you believe benefits you more than the alternative you always move away from what you believe does not benefit you so what that tells you if you understand that mechanism and how it works is that if you are not letting go and moving in the direction you would prefer to that can only mean you have a belief attached to staying where you are that makes staying where you are appear more beneficial than where it is you prefer to go you need to find out what that belief is and that usually translates usually translates as if you do let go you're afraid that something will happen that you don't prefer to have happen that's what we mean by being afraid you are projecting or the negative belief is convincing you that if you do let go and become who you prefer to be that something worse and less beneficial will happen then simply remaining where you are does that make sense as a mechanism to you it does make sense yes so you need to figure out what the belief could possibly be that would make staying where you are more beneficial or seem to be more beneficial than where it is you prefer to be do you have any clue as to what that might be well I have sharing if I may yes with an experience like that yeah so I went back and I analyzed the most of my negative experiences that I had and I realized that most of the times if not always they were self-inflicted alright and because and then I went and I asked why is that and then I found the reason and that was the main reason for me is that I find myself attracted and passionate about the idea of falling in love with the wrong person 99% of the time because well I don't know that's what you don't deserve anything better yeah I think so so this is an issue of self-worth well if you ask me now I feel like I deserve but then I think it's something more deep inside that I know is that you empirically know you do but if you believe that you are not worthy of it that is going to take precedence that's exactly what I just described as the motivational mechanism if the belief that you're unworthy is stronger than the belief that you deserve it you will deprive yourself of what you deserve because that belief is stronger how do I shift it believe well find out why that belief would be stronger why does it seem safer I'll use that term to deny yourself what you deserve are you concerned that if you allow yourself to attract what you deserve that something will go wrong with that or it won't be what you thought it would be maybe maybe all right well you have to be honest within yourself about these things so if you did allow yourself to attract what you deserve what you know you do deserve just by your existence what do you imagine might go wrong I think it'll be maybe too much positive too much positive energy problem what would too much positive energy do to you I mean I'm sure I haven't experienced it yet yet you have an idea that it is something to avoid so whether you have experienced that or not you obviously have a belief about it that isn't benefiting you and prevents you from moving toward it so what do you imagine too much positive energy might do below the top of your head off or something something that yes so you're saying you can't handle that much positive energy I'm sure I can are you at least empirically as you said well but do you know it in your bones is true or is it just an intellectual cons cept for you it's just a concept why isn't it in your bones why don't you know it to be true that you can handle it I'll give you a hint unless you can figure it out please go ahead all right you have to look to your definitions of what it means to have positive energy because you are creating a definition wherein having positive energy could possibly have something go against the positive energy and that's not a definition of positive energy you have a different definition so you have to clarify and clean up your definition of what it is that's capable of happening when you create a positive state of being many people on your planet say exactly what you're saying I would create a positive state of being but I'm afraid that if I do something negative will happen that's not a definition of a positive state of being nothing negative can happen in a positive state of being even if it looks like it's negative even if somebody else defines it as negative you will know that by staying in a positive state of being you can only extract a beneficial and positive effect from it no matter how it was created no matter how it looks no matter what anyone tells you about it you know that by staying in a positive state of being you cannot be affected negatively that's what you have to know is the definition of being in a positive state any other definition is not a definition of a positive state so you have to be clear about how you're defining the concept of what's possible in a positive state yes yes and this is where intuition comes into place and most of the times actually it never an intuition can but this is really just about knowledge it's about knowing how things work it's about understanding this literally almost from a physics point of view you cannot experience what you're not the vibration of it's simply not possible to experience something that you are not operating on the same wavelength as well I'm glad you mentioned that because there were cases when I felt extremely excited and positive and yes and everything was wonderful and then outcome was completely different that's because you are equating the idea of that outcome to being in the positive state and that's not the case I understand that physical reality and continuity can make it seem as if that was the outcome of the positive excited state but it wasn't if you have an outcome that is actually truly negative now I'm talking about something different than what you expect because just because something unexpected happens doesn't mean it's negative if you're labeling it as negative because you didn't get what you expected that's the definition you need to change but the idea is is that if you do experience something negative after having been in a positive state that negativity is not the result of the positive state that negativity is the result of you leaving the positive state and that means you applied a negative definition to what happened instead of a positive one you can recognize that something that manifests may not be what you expected may not even be what you prefer but that's a neutral observation and does not insist that you have to define it in a negative way you have to know that whatever happens in your life whatever pops up no matter how it looks must be there for a positive reason and if you stay in that frame of mind you will be able to use even what you don't prefer in a way that you do prefer that's how you use the negative positively and then when you use it in a positive way it will usually go away because you've used it up there's no reason for it to hang around because you were willing to validate it as having a reason to be there that serves you instead of assuming that just because something unexpected happened something went wrong that definition is what causes you to experience that something went wrong the thing in and of itself doesn't have built-in negative meaning nothing has built-in meaning you give it the meaning now you may give it that meaning unconsciously and then see the negative result from the negative belief you applied to it so quickly you didn't even know you were doing it but that's why it's so important to become aware of your definitions so that they don't catch you off-guard by making it seem as if well that just happened out there that's just because that's built into that situation no it never is it's always coming from you and therefore you have a feedback mechanism that lets you know how to course-correct and realign yourself and say wait a minute wait a minute I don't have to automatically assume that just because I got something I didn't expect that that's a negative thing let me see how I can define this in a positive way that serves me catch yourself stop yourself find the definition that gave it the negative experience that attach the negative experience do it and let go of that definition and replace it with a more positive one so you can get a beneficial effect out of whatever happens because as we have said and we'll say again now it doesn't matter what happens it only matters what you do with what happens that's what makes the difference this is helping it is and I have tried just that but it is la no you haven't because if you say I've tried it you're saying that you still had an assumption and an insistence and an expectation of what the result was supposed to be you don't know what the result needs to be until it shows up and that's what shows you what it needed to be so you have to let go of any insistence on what you think it's supposed to be do you understand yes it feels like the body sometimes just takes over the mind that is an excuse and it comes from a negative belief because that's not true you're buying into something as if it's a fact just because you feel it doesn't mean it's a fact the fact that you feel like the body sometimes takes over is one of the tools the negative belief uses to convince you you don't have the power to change you have to see through the lie the smoke and mirrors of the tools the negative belief uses it's not doing it maliciously just how it's built but you have to know that that's not true in other words when you hear yourself saying or hear yourself even thinking sometimes the body just takes over and I can't do anything about it that's exactly perfectly and precisely the moment to stop yourself and though wait a minute that's not a fact it's an opinion it's a belief it's a perspective and I don't have to buy that as true but negative beliefs will make themselves appear to be facts appear to be true you have to catch them in the moment and say a tricky little belief I heard that coming out of my mouth I heard that going through my head and I almost fell for that but I caught myself so thank you for allowing me the practice to have more discernment over what really is and isn't a fact is this helping a lot all right another layer of this experience is the fact that I've you know the fact that well it's them is the belief that if well it's a fact that you can have a belief if that's what you're saying okay it's a belief that during my experience here there seems to be a particular female template that that helps me experience this negative cycle that we just talked about and right but if it helps you experience that it must be doing it for a positive reason yes but why that specific physical template that I you must need that template to teach you something about yourself I learned that I'm tired of this maybe that's the lesson I was tired a long time ago obviously not tired enough yeah I am when you are really sick and tired of being sick and tired you will stop choosing to be sick and tired obviously if it keeps happening you're not tired enough so keep doing it until you're really tired enough of it then you'll let it go you'll realize that you don't need to keep doing it because you can only be doing it because you believe it serves you remember motivational mechanism yes you can only experience what you believe serves here so you must not be tired enough of it yet to let it go and that's okay so there's no other reason that there will be that specific repetitive physical template is just an excuse a permission slip for me to feel miserable yep and it's working right is there a way I can slow down my aging process there was somebody who am i living in the moment and you know how you live in the moment you follow your passion to the best you can with no insistence or assumption as to what the outcome is supposed to be that's how you accelerate your vibration and by contrast accelerating your vibration allows you to slow down and live in the moment and that's how you become age less slowing down the molecular level of the aging process to maybe living in the moment because you know how when you're acting on your passion it seems like time passes in a flash yes you've had that experience yes so if you are doing something you love to do and you're in that state of being and it appears like or feels like maybe 15 minutes has passed when you look up and reconnect with the world and oh it's been two hours or three hours what you feel was the time that passed the 15 minutes is all you've actually aged even though you might reconnect with the world three hours later and catch up to the Consensus reality of time if you only experienced 15 minutes in that experience of joy you have actually only aged fifteen minutes that's how you become ageless you collapse time you live in the moment you don't experience as much time because you're not focusing on so many details that you need more time to focus on them you're acting holistically you're living more in the now which is timeless but there's so many passionate people who age just like everybody else and that's okay just look at how they age though I'm not saying you won't mature even we mature but we are not infirm we are not diseased we are still energetic and many of you are too no matter how old you are you're getting more and more examples on your planet of people that are over a hundred who can probably outdo you so the idea is to understand that that's possible understand it's becoming even more probable and allow yourself not to focus on that needing to be the outcome but just focus on living in the moment and let yourself age and mature naturally for you because there is still a reason for that to happen in your society to a certain degree now that will become less and less and less necessary over time and for some individuals it may not be necessary at all at any age in any timeframe in any era but the idea is that if it does happen while you're living in the moment then there's a reason for it to happen that serves you so stop having the insistence that something shouldn't be happening just use what's happening in the most positive way you can that's the point of this conversation yes yes is that helped you a lot and one last thing I feel like I'm absolutely ready to meet you in physical form you are not what happens if we do you will blow up and what happens if I'm okay with that well then what purpose does that serve well what does that serve tell me what purpose that sir what if we try in a lucid dream would that be in a lucid dream is fine so can we make us that's a different dimensional vibration and there there is shall we say less probability that our higher vibration won't overwhelm your vibration and force to the surface the things that you may not be ready to integrate within your psyche yet this conversation between us has happened because you're still working on yourself yes you're still holding on to certain vibrations that are wholly incompatible with the vibrational frequency on which we operate we operate 10 times faster than you it would burn you out therefore the idea of incorporating this information is what allows you to accelerate yourself and become more vibrationally compatible but the idea of being in another dimension in what you call the lucid dream that acts as a buffer it's another reality that allows us to be more vibrationally compatible without negative effect to you in terms of your physical journey and obviously you are still on your physical journey and still exploring the idea of belief systems within you that don't serve you and therefore it would not really serve you for us to interact in your physical reality at this time please understand we've done this before we know what we're talking about and we will do nothing that in any way shape or form from our perspective in our experience would bring any degree of harm to you so we can not do that yet but there will be potentially a time in which that could happen the more you live in the moment the more you accelerate your vibration the more you become vibrationally compatible with us and so in time in perfect timing then something like that could happen you need to increase the probability by being more of yourself first that's the process that's contact but you're having contact right now anyway so the idea of physical contact with us can't be made to seem better than the kind of contact where having right now this is how it works and you have to simply trust that we know what we're doing all right I trust you thank you our unconditional love to you pleasant dreams [Music] [Applause] you